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I will appreciate the moment:

I will notice the good things that are happening to me right now,
whether it’s a beautiful sky, a happy child, an efficient grocery store clerk, or hitting all the green lights
for a change. I don’t know how many years or days I’ll live, so I want to live this moment fully. I will ask
myself often, “If this turns out to be the last day of my life, have I enjoyed it to the fullest extent
possible?” It’s easy to lapse into worrying about the future, or dreaming of better things to come, or
stewing in our regrets over the past while we miss the golden sunlight streaming in our window, or
don’t hear the lovely song playing on the radio. I will try not to miss this moment because I’m so
focused on what I should be doing next.

Even when I am working toward a future goal, I will try to
enjoy the process of getting there. I will ask myself constantly, “What can I do to wring the most joy
from this moment, from this experience?” I will remind myself that taking out the garbage in the rain is
a chance to smell the wet earth, to feel nature’s fresh raindrops on my skin, maybe even to stomp in a
puddle. I will seize every opportunity to laugh and have fun and learn from every task, no matter how
routine or boring. Housework becomes fun when I blast Motown and dance while drying the dishes or
sing along with the Supremes while making the bed, so this is what I will do to make my life joyful.

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Emotion holds and over-arching control on humanity.

All decisions are monitored with regards to anger, happiness, boredom, or sheer frustration; how often, for example, have you chosen to watch a particular movie because you were sad? How often have you gone on vacation out of frustration of your daily grind lifestyle? You are a slave to your emotions. They are as much a part of us as your skeleton, as your kidneys and liver.

Your emotions are complex, psychological, involving three segments: a psychological response, a subjective experience, and an expressive, occasionally behavioral response. The subjective experience refers to the fact that people all over the world- regardless of their particular culture-experience the same basic emotions. However, these basic emotions have a highly subjective range of experience. Therefore, sadness means something different for everyone, besides the fact that it is a very basic human response to something upsetting.

Your psychological response is precisely what it sounds like, of course. When your stomach flutters with anxiety, when your heart beats rapidly, you are experiencing psychological responses to your emotions. Research shows that the amygdala, a portion of the brain, triggers these reactions as it enacts a very big role in the formation of emotions, most notably, in the formation of fear. Your behavior response, on the other hand, is your very particular expression of your emotion.

You enact your emotions and show them on your sleeve so often, as the expression goes. These expressions can be universal, like a smile indicating happiness; alternately, they can be cultural.

This expression of emotion is precisely what emotional intelligence is concerned with. Your ability to understand other people’s emotional expression is your emotional intelligence; some researchers state that your emotional intelligence is actually more important than your IQ. After all, with a proper emotional intelligence, you can interact with people from all over the world. You can parse through any conversation because you understand, essentially what the other person is feeling. You can read them like an open book. Therefore emotional intelligence is like a map to the world.

1. Perceiving Emotions:
The initial step on the road to emotional intelligence is having the ability to correctly perceive emotions. This generally involves picking up on nonverbal clues like facial expression and body language and having the ability to assess what these things mean.

2. Reasoning and Thinking with Regards to These Emotions:
This step requires the utilization of emotions in order to promote cognitive activity. Through emotions, you can begin to prioritize the things you are paying attention to; you can garner your emotions with regards to the things that gain your attention.

3. Comprehending Emotions:
In this step you will look at your emotions a little bit closer. Each emotion carries a plethora of meaning. For example, if you see someone with angry emotions you must understand precisely where this anger came from and what this might mean for the person and for your surroundings. If in this example,, your friend is acting angry, he could be angry with something you sad last night; alternately, he could be angry because he got a speeding ticket or finds himself in a fight with his girlfriend.

The meaning behind different people’s emotions is incredibly varied, and it’s best not to any conclusions. Furthermore, you must begin to comprehend your own emotions. When you feel a certain way, you must diagnose where those feelings came from. What triggers you? This can help you understand yourself a little better.

4.
Managing Emotions:
You must begin to manage and regulate your emotions. Through this, you can begin to respond appropriately to your emotions and the emotions of others. This is the true high-level focus of emotional intelligence. You must have the ability to apply your perceptions of the world……………………

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As you work to understand the emotions of those around you, you can maximize you impact and happiness in many situations. You can begin to guide your relationships in a healthy manner and solve problems,
In these direct compartments, you can begin to:

1. Manage your anger.

How often has an argument gotten out of control because you or someone else couldn’t handle the feelings of anger?
Hot emotions like jealous, or anger, can be difficult to manage. However, if you maintain a level of emotional intelligence, you can calm yourself.
You can direct your mind to think about unrelated things, about funny encounters that hold no relation of the current problem. You can utilize various coping mechanisms, as well; for example, you can concentrate on the direct, realistic situation at hand rather than the emotions attached to it.
Alternately, you can begin to look at the situation from another’s perspective to get a full grasp of it.

2. Read Body Language:

Scientist state that body language subsists a full sixty percent of all communication. With proper emotional intelligence, you can begin to understand the body language of other people to operate in a world without unnecessary words. When you begin to pick up on body language cues, you can act responsibly to what a person is feeling.
For example, if you notice that a person is acting especially shy or un-confident, you would not speak loudly and aggressively at that person. Instead, you’d speak slowly, kindly, in attempts to coax the person into better confidence and assuredness.

3. Manage your emotional In Alternate Settings:

With emotional intelligence in hand, it won’t matter what sort of people you speak to or where, in the world you are. You will have the ability to handle any anxiety you, personally, have about certain situation or group of people. And as you handle your own emotions by understanding them and having compassion.

4. Hold better team recruitment and selection skills:

With emotional intelligence, you can begin to work as a better team leader or manager. Many team leaders utilize emotional intelligence in order to select new candidates to be a part of the team. They work to find new candidates who can mange their own emotions; candidates who can develop strong relationships that enhance productivity and improve performance.

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I will appreciate the moment:
I will notice the good things that are happening to me right now,
whether it’s a beautiful sky, a happy child, an efficient grocery store clerk, or hitting all the green lights
for a change. I don’t know how many years or days I’ll live, so I want to live this moment fully. I will ask
myself often, “If this turns out to be the last day of my life, have I enjoyed it to the fullest extent
possible?” It’s easy to lapse into worrying about the future, or dreaming of better things to come, or
stewing in our regrets over the past while we miss the golden sunlight streaming in our window, or
don’t hear the lovely song playing on the radio. I will try not to miss this moment because I’m so
focused on what I should be doing next. Even when I am working toward a future goal, I will try to SoulfulLiving.com © 2006 Molly L. Stranahan. All Rights Reserved 3
enjoy the process of getting there. I will ask myself constantly, “What can I do to wring the most joy
from this moment, from this experience?” I will remind myself that taking out the garbage in the rain is
a chance to smell the wet earth, to feel nature’s fresh raindrops on my skin, maybe even to stomp in a
puddle. I will seize every opportunity to laugh and have fun and learn from every task, no matter how
routine or boring. Housework becomes fun when I blast Motown and dance while drying the dishes or
sing along with the Supremes while making the bed, so this is what I will do to make my life joyful.

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Relaxation is essential to the healing process. It’s hard to allow the healing energies to flow with in us if we’re tense and frightened. It tends to lower or normalize blood pressure, pulse rate, and level of stress hormones in the blood.
It’s benefits are also multiplied when combined with regular exercise. In short, it reduces wear and tear on both body and mind, helping people live better and longer.

It only takes a moment or two, several times a day, to allow the body to let go and relax. At any moment, you can close your eyes and take two or three deep breathes and release whatever tension you may be carrying. If you have more time, sit, or lie down quietly, and talk your body into complete relaxation. Say silently to yourself, my toes are relaxing, my ankles are letting go, and so on. Working all the way down your body.

At the end of this simple exercise, you’ll feel peaceful and calmful for a while. Repeating this process on a regular basis can create a peaceful state within you. This is very positive, physical mediation that you can do anywhere.

As a society we made meditation into something mysterious and difficult to achieve, yet meditation is one of the oldest and simplest process we can do. Yes, we can make it complicated with specialized breathing and ritualized mantras. Those meditations are fine for advanced students. Still, everyone can meditate now, it is easy.

All we have to do is sit or lie down quietly, close our eyes, and take a few deep breathes. The body will automatically relax, we dont have to do anything to force it. We can repeat the words peace, healing, love, or anything thats meaningful to us. We could even say we love ourselves. or all is well. Everything is working out for my higher good. Out of this situation only good will come.

I am safe….

We can say silently. “What is it I need to know.” or “I am willing to learn .” Then just be there quietly…..
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Behavior is an acquired human attribute. The behavior we have today is the result of the effects of various factors on our behavior.
Some factors may be in conflict with another in shaping our behavior, but most often, the most dominant factor gets to shape how we assess and resond to situations, how we react to certain stimulus, how we solve a problem and how we deal with other human beings.

1.) ROLE:

Our roles in the society be it as a politician a prisoner, a vendor, a criminal, a priest, a person of authority or any role for that matter regulates and determines our expressed behavior. Each social situation or environment has it’s own set of expectations about how it is to behave properly. We tend to conform to this expectation as much as possible and this very process of conforming to this expectation greatly shapes our behaviors.

2.) RESOURCES:

Imagine being in a dangerous situation say, in a burning building. The availability of resources determines our behavior in that situation. Are there exitways? Are you assured of your safety? Can you hear the sirens signaling rescue?
Can you still breathe?
The availability of resources during a particular time determines how we respond. Our responses, which then turn to behavior, are determined by how well we react to stressors.

3:) HABITS & AUTOMATIC RESPONSES:

Whenever our lives go into autopilot mode, patterned behavior as brushing our teeth before we sleep, the common phrase we say whenever we are surprised, or saying thank you whenever offered something or sorry whenever we err, we form and act out of habit.

Habits or wont’s are behavioral routines that tend to be imbedded into us and are acted out subconsciously, or that which needs no conscious thought. It is thought to be acquired through repetition. What is astonishing about the “habit” aspect of our behavior is that the brain expends almost no energy performing it. It creates a simple neural pathway which tends to be the only brain activity during the execution of a habitual act…………

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WHAT IS POSITIVE THINKING:

Positive thinking in the field of positive psychology relates to the ways in which one looks at life. How does one perceive it? Is this perception positive or negative?

Positive psychology understands positive thinking and it’s roll in instilling happiness and fulfillment.

Positive thinking does not mean that one looks at the world simplistically, without an understanding of the dangers and challenges associating living that life. No. Positive thinking means that one approaches all of life: the challenges and the joys, with a positive mindset.

With positive thinking, one can make the most out of any situation. One looks at abilities positively viewing them as strengths that will push one foreword to fulfillment. One is able to see one’s self in the greater picture as a content and cooperative, vibrant part of one’s society…..
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1. You’ll know that you are Deliberately Creating Peace when…
you feel guided to take your focus off the external world. Deliberate Creators know that we are, at all moments, creating our future. Some of us are doing this creating ‘deliberately’ while others, by getting caught up in the swirl of events that surround us, are doing this creation ‘by default’.

2. You’ll know that you are Deliberately Creating Peace when…
in relationship with others, you strive to bring the focus to areas of harmony and agreement instead of conflict and discord. Deliberate Creators appreciate that what we resist, persists, and therefore make thoughtful determinations of where attention should be placed.

3. You’ll know that you are Deliberately Creating Peace when…
you let go of the idea that you can only feel peaceful when everything around you is going a certain way and instead, recognize that you have the power within you to choose to experience peace.

4. You’ll know that you are Deliberately Creating Peace when…
you notice that, when someone ‘pushes your buttons’, instead of expending your energy trying to get the other person to change, you search inside yourself and ask, ‘what happened inside me that led me to react that way to you?’ Whenever we feel a painful emotion (anger, resentment, jealousy, fear, depression, desire for vengeance, grief) this simply means that someone has activated one of our wounds and a powerful opportunity for healing lies right in front of us.

5. You’ll know that you are Deliberately Creating Peace when…
you find yourself put off by anti-war demonstrations and the notion of judging and condemning the players in a dispute. Deliberate Creators understand that we cannot be engaged in a battle and be a source for peace at the same time.

6. You’ll know that you are Deliberately Creating Peace when…
you find yourself focusing on what you are wanting instead of what you are not wanting. Deliberate Creators recognize that what we focus on expands and they give careful thought as to what they want to have expand in their lives.

7. You’ll know that you are Deliberately Creating Peace when…
instead of praying for an outside force to bring peace to others, you commit to being one who radiates peace from within.

Emotion holds and over-arching control on humanity.

All decisions are monitored with regards
to anger, happiness, boredom, or sheer frustration; how often, for example, have you chosen to watch a particular movie because you were sad? How often have you gone on vacation out of frustration of your daily grind lifestyle? You are a slave to your emotions. They are as much a part of us as your skeleton, as your kidneys and liver.

Your emotions are complex, psychological, involving three segments: a psychological response, a subjective experience, and an expressive, occasionally behavioral response. The subjective experience refers to the fact that people all over the world- regardless of their particular culture-experience the same basic emotions. However, these basic emotions have a highly subjective range of experience. Therefore, sadness means something different for everyone, besides the fact that it is a very basic human response to something upsetting.

Your psychological response is precisely what it sounds like, of course. When your stomach flutters with anxiety, when your heart beats rapidly, you are experiencing psychological responses to your emotions. Research shows that the amygdala, a portion of the brain, triggers these reactions as it enacts a very big role in the formation of emotions, most notably, in the formation of fear. Your behavior response, on the other hand, is your very particular expression of your emotion.

You enact your emotions and show them on your sleeve so often, as the expression goes. These expressions can be universal, like a smile indicating happiness; alternately, they can be cultural.

This expression of emotion is precisely what emotional intelligence is concerned with. Your ability to understand other people’s emotional expression is your emotional intelligence; some researchers state that your emotional intelligence is actually more important than your IQ. After all, with a proper emotional intelligence, you can interact with people from all over the world. You can parse through any conversation because you understand, essentially what the other person is feeling. You can read them like an open book. Therefore emotional intelligence is like a map to the world.

1. Perceiving Emotions:
The initial step on the road to emotional intelligence is having the ability to correctly perceive emotions. This generally involves picking up on nonverbal clues like facial expression and body language and having the ability to assess what these things mean.

2. Reasoning and Thinking with Regards to These Emotions:
This step requires the utilization of emotions in order to promote cognitive activity. Through emotions, you can begin to prioritize the things you are paying attention to; you can garner your emotions with regards to the things that gain your attention.

3. Comprehending Emotions:
In this step you will look at your emotions a little bit closer. Each emotion carries a plethora of meaning. For example, if you see someone with angry emotions you must understand precisely where this anger came from and what this might mean for the person and for your surroundings. If in this example,, your friend is acting angry, he could be angry with something you sad last night; alternately, he could be angry because he got a speeding ticket or finds himself in a fight with his girlfriend.

The meaning behind different people’s emotions is incredibly varied, and it’s best not to any conclusions. Furthermore, you must begin to comprehend your own emotions. When you feel a certain way, you must diagnose where those feelings came from. What triggers you? This can help you understand yourself a little better.

4.
Managing Emotions:
You must begin to manage and regulate your emotions. Through this, you can begin to respond appropriately to your emotions and the emotions of others. This is the true high-level focus of emotional intelligence. You must have the ability to apply your perceptions of the world……………………

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