Why the poor lack mental capacity, and why they need help

Throughout the world, the poor face increasingly gruelling choices; whether to save for retirement or to send a kid to college, whether to buy that used car for basic transportation needs or to buy educational material for their children.

Throughout the world, the poor face increasingly gruelling choices; whether to save for retirement or to send a kid to college, whether to buy that used car for basic transportation needs or to buy educational material for their children. In some cases the choice can be gut wrenching, deciding for instance whether to pay for your next meal or to get medical treatment for that broken arm. A recent study from Harvard, Princeton, British Columbia and Warwick published in Science suggests that while the poor may already be suffering from the difficulty of making tough economic choices, they may in fact be facing a double whammy in the form of having insufficient cognitive capability and self-control to make these choices. The study is important since it points to a vicious cycle – being poor can lead to cognitive deficits and poor choices, which in turn can accentuate poverty. It has significant policy implications in a world where income inequality is rampant and where those at the top increasingly rig the system to disadvantage ones at the bottom.

As the abstract and introduction make it clear, poverty already tracks with poor decision outcomes; everything from compliance with medication routines to filling out forms on time:

A variety of studies point to a correlation between poverty and counterproductive behavior. The poor use less preventive health care (1), fail to adhere to drug regimens (2), are tardier and less likely to keep appointments (3, 4), are less productive workers (5), less attentive parents (6), and worse managers of their finances (7–9). These behaviors are troubling in their own right, but they are particularly troubling because they can further deepen poverty.

What factors could be responsible for this behavior? External economic and social factors certainly play a role, but the study instead proposes that a diminishing of mental capacity might be disproportionately responsible. The authors ground their findings in well-known studies that demonstrate the phenomenon of will power depletion. The psychologist Roy Baumeister has written a book showing how will power and determination can be a limited resource which typically gets exhausted by factors like poor nutrition and mental exertion. The present authors’ conclusion is simple; in facing tougher economic and other choices, the poor’s will power gets exhausted far more than the rich’s. This sets them up for a descent into even deeper poverty, setting off a tortured feedback loop.

To investigate this phenomenon the authors performed two very different but complementary experiments. In one study they targeted shoppers at a New Jersey mall with median household income levels ranging from $70,000 to $20,000, with the lower number representing the bottom one-third of American household incomes. They then gave these shoppers a series of hypothetical economic challenges which required them to make a difficult financial choice; for instance one of the questions asked them what they would do if they were facing an expensive repair job on their car. Would they pay all the money at once, would they pay it in installments or would they defer the repairs until later? In addition the economic challenges were classified as “hard” or “easy” depending on the amount that the participants had to spend on the repairs ($150 vs $1500). After asking the shoppers to mull over these scenarios, they were then given two standard cognitive tests. One was a test called the Raven matrix test in which participants have to pick a missing shape to fill in spatial gaps. The other test tested the ability to make quick decisions. Both tests were non-verbal and therefore did not depend on literacy or education levels.

The results were illuminating. While the performance of both the rich and the poor shoppers was almost the same based on the “easy” challenge, it was markedly different when preceded by the “hard” challenge. The implications are clear; the harder the economic decision (in terms of amount of money involved) the participants faced, the more they depleted their cognitive powers and the poorer they did on the tests. In keeping with this trend, people making six figure salaries will likely deplete even lesser cognitive resources.

 

The second experiment was very different and looked at a group of 150 farmers in the state of Tamil Nadu in India. The same two tests were administered to these people, controlling for confounding factors like stress levels (based on blood tests), and nutritional status. The tests were administered once before the harvest and once after the harvest. The assumption was that the farmers face much tougher choices before the harvest when crop yields and incomes are uncertain, but once the harvest comes in their choices are eased and become much simpler.

Again, the results mirrored those for the New Jersey shoppers. Before the harvest the farmers seemed to deplete their cognitive capabilities and performed poorly on the hard tasks in terms of accuracy, response times and error rate. After the harvest they got better. In addition, the researchers compared the poor performances of both groups with those of people who have lost a full night’s sleep and found them to be similar. The conclusions thus reinforce the saying about losing a good night’s sleep over financial problems.

This study has important policy implications, not the least of which is that government programs designed to help the poor need to either take advantage of the times when cognitive power is maximum, or otherwise need to “supply” the missing cognitive function that the poor need to tide over difficult economic choices. In this context, a social safety net in the form of welfare programs and social security is an important minimum provider of this cognitive deficit. Some of this cognitive shortfall can be compensated for by simple reforms, like having the poor fill in forms or sending them reminders about important loans or fees during the morning (when cognitive capability is high). Social programs can take advantage of the natural cycle of cognitive capability demonstrated in the case of the farmers, and can time their intervention accordingly; this is especially true in the aftermath of natural disasters like hurricanes when, plagued by physical and mental exhaustion, cognitive deficits are especially acute. And while the study does not mention this, I was reminded of other experiments demonstrating the positive effects of sugar boosts on decision-making capacity; thus, one solution could simply involve giving poor people access to cheap, sugar-rich foods like gummy bears while they are making difficult decisions.

In his book Development and Freedom, the Nobel Prize winning economist Amartya Sen described his important theory of “capacity”. Sen’s basic thesis was that simply providing opportunities to people is not enough since, for a variety of internal and external reasons, many people don’t have the basic capacity to take advantage of these opportunities. This new study focuses on one of the most important of these capacities – inherent cognitive ability. It points out a serious vicious cycle that the poor face, depleting their cognitive power in making difficult decisions, thus leading to even worse economic circumstances that further drain their mental resources. The conclusion of the study is simple; due to their circumstances, the poor are simply less focused, more mentally exhausted, more lacking in self-control and less able to make decisions abetting their well-being. They need help.

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What Is Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)?

Affecting 3 to 8 percent of the population, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) is the most common of all the personality disorders. This week, the Savvy Psychologist explains the eight traits of OCPD

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As a culture, we’re fascinated by narcissists and psychopaths, two of the more dramatic disordered personalities.  But what about the most common personality disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder, or OCPD?

Affecting 3-8% of the population, OCPD often gets overlooked because it’s not dramatic. In fact, with its focus on order, perfection, and control, it’s straightlaced to the extreme.  Folks with OCPD seem to have everything under control, which is actually the problem.  This week, by request from listener Amanda Myers from St. Louis, here are 8 traits of OCPD.

But before we get into the details of OCPD (and focus on details, we’ll see, is the defining feature), let’s do a quick primer on personality disorders in general.  Last week, we learned that narcissists really do think they’re all that and genuinely expect red carpet treatment. In episode #26, we learned that psychopaths really do only care about themselves.

Likewise, in OCPD, the individual feels his or her perfectionism is necessary and good.  In short, the personality disordered person’s pattern and worldview are ingrained, so all seems good and right from their point of view.

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The role of faith, spirituality & religion

Spirituality and religion were important to many of the people we interviewed. We spoke to people of different faiths, including Christian, Muslim, Sikh, Buddhist, and Jewish, as well as people who did not see themselves as being any particular religion. Spirituality meant different things to different people, but many people shared beliefs in the existence of God or Allah. Some people who weren’t interested in organised religion had developed their own spiritual practices, including different forms of prayer or meditation. Only a few people said spirituality played no part in their life. 

Many people described a relationship between religion or spirituality and mental health. A few people who were Christian talked about their mental health as a ‘spiritual experience’.

And also the spirituality in mental health, that hasn’t been assessed. because I’m, I mean maybe I’m going to sound completely mad now but I could swear that, you know I’ you know, that, you know, some things that have happened to me, you know, I’ve either dreamed before or something like that. Do you know what I mean? I think I mean, you know, or, you know, and if you try and, try and tell the doctor that something spiritual as well as, I mean I always say as well as any insanity that I, as quite, I quite positively believe that I have experienced insanity in the true meaning of the word insanity. But in so saying, in the same breath I’ll also say that I truly believe what I experience has been a spiritual experience as well. I know I’ve experienced insanity, you can, I will admit to that but as much as that I also think I’ve had a spiritual experience as well. So, you know, I’d like that to be more, more looked into, more investigated, more investigation into that.

How spirituality helped with mental health issues
Most people we talked to felt spirituality helped with mental health problems in some way. Some found support, prayers and visits from their religious group helpful, especially when in hospital. Others found independent meditation helpful – even those who didn’t believe in prayer or God. (See ‘Complementary & alternative medicine for mental health problems’.) Some people said their belief in God or support from other members of their faith had helped them overcome suicidal thoughts. A few people said that, when they felt depressed, ‘at least God noticed’ and they were therefore not alone. Another woman thought she would get depressed if she didn’t have her spirituality. Several people were comforted by the idea of a loving and forgiving God who values each individual, whether or not they have mental health problems. Others felt their spirituality gave them courage, inspiration, strength and patience, including one woman who said her faith had helped her survive as a child in the care system. 

Several people, however, pointed out that religion on its own was not necessarily going to make you feel better. One man felt there was a limit to what advice he could give other people, as faith is such an individual matter. In another man’s view, prayer helped only if used with medication. 

Some people said their spirituality helped them to get through their problems or get better. One woman found prayer helped when she stopped drinking alcohol. A man diagnosed with schizophrenia said that joining a church helped him to stop doing alcohol and drug “cocktails” and that prayer helped with his sleeping problems. He also described how his spirituality enabled him to stop taking his medication and he had done so without informing his psychiatrist (patients should not stop medication without first consulting with a healthcare professional). After visiting Mecca and receiving a healing charm, one woman with depression began eating again and felt she was “suffering less”. Another Muslim woman also benefited from a blessing but expressed her fear of “black magic”.

Spirituality also acted as a “coping mechanism” by providing therapeutic “time out” for rebalancing, relaxation or distraction. Some said it gave them a reason to want to go on. One man described prayer as a way of avoiding “bottling things up”. A Christian man recommended meditation as something that can be done at any time, anywhere.

When spirituality doesn’t help
Some thought spirituality or religion sometimes didn’t help or could make things worse, depending on the particular church or the state of a person’s mental health. For example, one man felt bad because he wanted to acheive ‘moral perfection’ but couldn’t. Some said they needed practical help, but their church or temple didn’t help. Others said they received support and had felt welcome and accepted.

Some who found prayer helpful but said that nothing helped when they were very unwell. A woman diagnosed with psychotic depression described how Buddhism helped her to challenge her negative thinking and control her thoughts. She felt meditation helped her to avoid psychotic episodes, but said it was impossible to meditate when she was psychotic because the voices got in the way. Others found prayer unhelpful in general.

A few people talked about how they thought that religion had triggered mental health problems, “weird thoughts” or suicidal feelings (others found that spirituality helped to diminish suicidal feelings). Some mentioned that their interest in spirituality changed when unwell, including one man who described his spirituality as sometimes being more of a “hindrance”. [See Lorenz below]. A few people said their faith had been tested, including one woman who was in an abusive marriage. She said that feeling rejected by God triggered her depression. Another man said that the “curse” of depression made him feel as though “the hand of God was against me”.

Others talked about the way that mental health problems are seem by some as ‘possession’ by jinn, spirits or the devil. One 49 year old Indian Muslim [see Hanif above] and one 50 year old Afro-Caribbean Christian described how, in their early twenties, their psychosis was interpreted as possession.

Very few people described themselves as not being spiritual. One man said he had tried to, but didn’t believe in God and felt no connection with him. He couldn’t understand how spirituality could help his depression. Another woman who also didn’t believe in God described religion as “superstitious” and said she’d only tried prayer when she was “desperate”.

Mental health services and spiritual matters
Some people thought that spiritual matters were missing from mental health assessments and service provision – just one woman described having Christian counselling. Some people felt that if there was any provision for religious beliefs within services it was only for Christianity – a few saw this as further evidence of the dominance of a White western establishment. People also felt that religion is misjudged in mental health services. For example, one man thought that services see spirituality as evidence of mental ill health. He said that you can be intelligent and deeply religious. A few people felt they had experienced discrimination because of their faith. One man felt staff were more afraid he’d be violent because he expressed strong religious feeling. Others felt staff made assumptions about them because of their ethnicity; including one Asian man who was a Christian, but thought staff assumed he was Muslim.

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4 Easy Steps to Inner Peace

The mind is the source of Happiness and Unhappiness…..

4 Easy Steps to Inner Peace

Do you long for inner peace?

Are you ready to experience a REAL feeling of calm inside?

Try this:

Step 1.  Identify whatever idea you are holding onto which prevents you from feeling peace right now in this moment .  NAME IT.    We’re not talking about naming your circumstance.  We’re talking about identifying your BELIEFS about your circumstance.

Step 2.  Become willing to let it go.  Make believe you CAN let it go.  What would it be like if that belief DIDN’T EXIST?  How would you feel without that idea?  What would your life be like without that thought?  Who would you be if you were no longer holding onto that limiting belief?

Now…. right now… do you feel a sense of relief?  If not, then you have more to let go of.

Step 3)  Wash.  Rinse.  Repeat.  Start from Step 1 and do it again.  Name the next piece which is disturbing your sense of well-being.  Firstidentify the belief or attitude, and then become willing to let go of those thoughts that are causing upset.  Repeat the first two steps over and over until you feel a release.
Step 4)  Check inside again. Can you feel the absence of upset?  THAT’S PEACE.  Can you feel a clean, fresh feeling?  Take a deep breath of it. That’s peace.

What would you be willing to give up to keep this feeling of peace?
What would you be willing to do to stay peaceful?  (Hint: If you want to keep the feeling of peace, don’t allow your upsetting thoughts to come back and play in your mind. Just say, “I’ve had enough of you.”)

I know what you’re thinking, “Paige, This is RIDICULOUS.  How will erasing my upsetting thought give me lasting peace?  It’s still a problem in my life!  I can’t just quit life and sit on a mountaintop!  I’ve got real challenges!”

The Fine Print
Every time you allow yourself a break from the anxious thinking (it has to be a true break), you REWIRE your brain to make space for more feelings of calmness.  Every rest you take is BUILDING UPON THE LAST.  So, you are actually creating forward movement every time you remember to let go.  Peace is built one moment at a time.  Today, you might live without your worrisome thoughts once.  Tomorrow, you may rest from your anxieties twice.  The next day you might practice taking a break four times, and so on.

But don’t worry about tomorrow or the next day.  Just sit for a minute NOW and imagine what it would feel like for your worry to magically disappear… as if you had a magic wand!

Poof!

WHO DO YOU BECOME without your fear, worry, anxiety or trouble?

My guess is that you become quiet, powerful, and FREE.

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Practicing meditation is essential for developing Empath intuition!

Meditation is one of the most powerful tools an Empath can use for their personal growth. A committed daily practice will serve in many ways. It will help strengthen the mind, body and spirit. It will build a powerful shield around the Empath and open up their intuition like nothing else. Strong intuition requires a clean and clear mind. A cluttered, thought-filled mind will do nothing to help us grow or develop our abilities. When we have clarity of thought and a lucid mind, magical things can happen. Thoughts are addictive and difficult to break free from. However, once we reset the mind through meditation we can switch them off far easier.

Not only does meditation build our intuition it also reprogrammes the brain into being able to better deal with negativity and enables us to deal with the onslaught of thoughts, energy and emotions we pick up from others.

Most Empaths find meditation incredibly difficult to get into because of their creative and over-active mind. Perseverance is all that is needed. Starting with a five-minute practice and building up into twenty to thirty minutes will reap incredible benefits.

Thoughts can be destructive to our health and wellbeing, especially when they are negative and repetitive. Empaths tend to spend a lot of time in their heads, which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. However, spend too much time around certain people or in certain places and the happy thoughts can quickly turn into painful memories, anger or thoughts of being wronged. Being with certain other people can contribute to having repetitive dark thoughts. However, we don’t always make the connection because the over-whelming thoughts don’t always kick in till a day or two after being around those who triggered them. We can get so caught up and lost in these thoughts and the emotions they create that we do not question their origin. By stilling the mind in mediation it will help put a stop to any thought induced emotions.

I believe the best way to meditate is with an erect spine, either sitting in a straight-backed chair or in a comfy cross-legged or kneeling position on the floor. Keeping the spine straight and upright allows the energy to flow up and down and the breath to be calm. There are some who will say lying down is a perfectly acceptable way to meditate, but it is too easy to fall asleep when lying down and the opportunity to consciously quieten the mind is lost. Just make sure you feel comfortable before you start.

One of the best ways to quickly get out of the head is to focus our awareness outside of ourself, using a meditative technique called mindfulness. This can be done almost anywhere and involves focusing on something outside of your mind. You could gaze at a flickering candle or pay close attention to your scenery as you pass it by (obviously not to be done whilst driving). If you like walking in nature look up at the trees and notice all you can about the bark, branches and leaves, see the different cloud formations in the sky or inspect the wild flowers growing within the foliage.

We can engage mindfulness when walking through a busy shopping centre or peopled place. You can do this simply by paying close attention to your walking gait: notice how the heal and sole of your foot hit the floor as you walk, how this in turn carries on through the legs and up through the body, notice how your arms move, how your shoulders and head feel. Even if you do this for a matter of minutes it is a form of moving mindful meditation that will reap many benefits.

Regular meditation helps clear the mind of thoughts, fact! However, thoughts will put up a big fight to stay centre stage. When we try to quieten our mind the monkey living in our head is activated. Jumping from one random thought to another, the monkey mind can be a challenge to still and for some it will take much more effort than for others (my monkey mind is like a hyperactive sugar-driven wild child). It is at the point when they are about to make a breakthrough in meditation, that many people will give up, citing they just cannot do it because it’s too hard. Yes, it can be difficult in the initial stages but nothing good comes easily. Transformation does not happen over night, but it will not take long for you to see how a regular meditation practice can be totally transformative and a fast-tracked way to developing greater intuition.

February is the perfect month to set yourself a four week challenge. Being a leap year makes it an extra special time to set your intention. Why not use the four weeks to commit to a daily meditation practice that can transform your life and start on Monday?

To see what amazing transformations can be had by practicing meditation, set yourself a four-week challenge and allot an amount of time each day to practice. I find mornings are easiest. Get up ten to twenty minutes earlier and start with five minutes then gradually build up. If you are on a time limit set a gentle alarm. It is amazing how quickly time will go once you are enveloped in your private mind sanctuary.

If you find meditation difficult it is always best to use a guided meditation until you have more control of your mind and thoughts. There are hundreds to choose from on YouTube. I have included one above and one at the bottom of the post, just to get you started (using earphones is always best with the guided mediations).

Before you start any guided meditation make sure you are compatible with the narrator’s voice. If you do not find the voice soothing then you may get irritated by it during the meditation, which will then be a distraction. Oh an make sure you won’t be disturbed.

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7 Steps to Help Develop Intuition

Having strong intuition we can trust is a huge help in navigating the turbulent journey of life. Luckily most who are Sensitive are born with a strong sense of intuition which we can continue to build over the course of our lives. Being able to follow our intuition and trust its promptings will guide us to the life we are meant to follow.
The best way for us do this is by knowing its many signals.

1. Practice meditation daily.  If only for a short time, five minutes a day is better than no minutes. Stilling the mind through meditation is the best way to develop intuition. It is not an overnight process. Some have to work harder than others. It is in meditation you receive the answers to your questions through messages and visions.

2. Know your visions are real. The visions you see in meditation are real and have significant meaning… we just need to decipher them.  Many of our messages come through symbolism or code and are unique to each one of us. Learning to decode them is essential to understanding them.


For example: one person may see a red rose in their mind’s eye and interpret it as message of love; another may see the same but interpret the thorns and color red as a sign of danger. Our visions and messages are exclusive to us and that is why it is important to recognize their meanings and believe in them.
3. Keep a meditation diary. After each meditation, quickly write what you saw and felt, even if it wasn’t much. This goes a long way to helping you decipher your visions. If you don’t write what you saw you will soon forget it. You often get messages during meditation that may make no sense for days, weeks, even months after you received them. One day you will come to understand what your message was trying to tell you through the notes you made. A meditation diary will also help you interpret and understand any repetitive imagery.

4. Listen to your solar intuition. Your solar plexus is your seat of emotions. It is here we get to experience our intuitive feelings. For decision making, always tune into the solar intuition. If a certain choice causes feelings of distress or discomfort then that choice is not a good one. If however, the decision feels calm, peaceful or uplifting then that choice is safe for us.

5. Take intuition development classes or meditation classes. A supportive group environment is a perfect place to increase intuition and the sixth-sense. The power of the like-minded working collectively in meditation can enhance intuitive awareness. But always listen to your solar intuition when choosing a class. It has to feel completely safe and hopefully be an ego-free-zone.

6. Note the intuitive events you experience each day. This can be done in your meditation diary.  Examples of intuitive events are: when you think of a person and they suddenly call or you follow a hunch that proves to be correct. There are many more. However small or insignificant they seem, your intuition is at work guiding you. Too often these happenings are often brushed off as coincidence. Writing them down is confirmation of how your sixth-sense is increasing. The more you develop, the more you will notice these goings-on.

7. Stay in balance, mentally and physically. Eating right and looking after the body through exercise helps intuition develop. An unhealthy out-of-balance body is a very poor conductor of psychic energy. When you have a sluggish body you will have slow-moving energy centers and a foggy mind. Visions will have no clarity or focus, and the inclination to progress will be stalled.

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Compassion, the Spiritual Catalyst

No, the most powerful emotion is not fear. It’s not anger either. I’m going to tell you what it is, and I’m going to tell you that it’s an attribute of love. You might say, “Oh, that’s very, very nice, and we knew you were going to say that.” Yes, but it’s not actually love!
We’re going to identify the attribute of an emotion that is the center of The Third Language. The Third Language is defined as that language between the Human Being and the Higher Self. It also contains something that is a catalyst to power. It’s called “compassion.” It is difficult to define, this Third Language, for it is interdimensional. When the Human Being feels true compassion for family, for self, and for the planet, an energy of communication is created that was never there before, and you can feel it.

Some of you have felt these things in your meditations. Some of you are looking for certain kinds of feelings when you pray. Turn to compassion. How many of you are aware of a “feedback” feeling when you meditate—one that floods you or tingles you or touches you on the head? How many of you are aware of what that is? You brought yourselves to a level where you could feel and experience the energy of compassion. That triggered communication, and you felt the feedback of the guide energy and the Higher Self.

Meditation and Prayer

Let me ask you this, dear ones. How do you meditate? How do you pray? Compassion is the language of co-creation. How many of you co-create for yourselves? Now we’re getting down to the practical. Do you sit in front of Spirit and say: “Oh Spirit, I need this and that”? Do you say, “Oh Spirit, I have to explain something to you before you can help me; you need to know how this or that is working”?

Dear ones, we know you, we know exactly what you’re in need of, and we love you. Human Being, we know all about you, so you don’t have to explain anything!

We are saying to you that compassion is a trigger during your communication to Spirit, not the language or energy of simply asking or being loved. We are talking about generating the “thickness of love.”
It is compassion that is the key, and when you feel compassion, it is returned to you within a two-way path of interaction. You start to feel us when we feel the compassion of the energy within you. It creates communication. It translates the untranslatable. We’re here to tell you that this is yours alone. The animals do not feel sacred compassion, and you do. No other living thing on your planet can create this kind of energy.
What about co-creation, synchronicity, and healing? How do you do this, you might ask? Why doesn’t it work every time? The answer is that you often use too many words! Come, be quiet, and sit in front of Spirit. We know everything that is going on in your lives. Acknowledge this, and be still before the grandness of God. Become compassionate, and marry to your Higher Self!

For profound power in your lives, and a fast connection to the Higher Self, learn how to develop compassion—to feel it in your soul and heart. Feel compassion for those around you—compassion for the situation they are in—compassion for humanity and the earth. Visualize the things you wish, and thereby begin to co-create them. Visualize yourselves without disease, without worry, and without anxiety. Then actually revel in the feeling! Celebrate the purity of your existence.

Feel compassion for the moment, for the piece of God that is you. Feel compassion for the children of Earth, and even though you may say that this is unrelated to what you need at the moment, do it anyway. In this new energy of incredible creative power, you don’t understand what this does, for the compassion that you create tells the whole story to the Higher Self and opens the channel of communication.

Compassion is the code of The Third Language, and when you are able to use it within your prayers and meditations and visualizations, the answers and solutions come in. Compassion creates synchronicity. It creates your reality. It creates healing in your body.

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FOCUS

It’s not everyday that we catch a glimpse of the sun waking up

Or going to bed.

 

There is beauty all around us

That we don’t often see

We just focus on misery.

JmaC

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Horrible Game….

I am a person

A soul like so many

Yes I’m an individual whose wrapped in lies

For if I were to speak freely

And finally tell the truth

It can only lead to my demise

I wasn’t always like this

For I dug my own grave

I erected this wall of shame

I’ve been living on half truths and deception so long

I’m now a master at this horrible game….

 

JmaC

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Stop Worrying Positive Affirmations

Present Tense Affirmations
I am letting go of my worries
I am free from worry
My mind is peaceful and focused
I am calm even when I have a problem to solve
I am relaxed even when life becomes difficult or stressful
I am able to resolve problems and worries logically
I let go of worries knowing that I can always come back to them later
I am at peace with myself
My mind is relaxed and thinking clearly
I am working calmly towards resolving my worries and concerns

 

Future Tense Affirmations
I will stop worrying
I will be free from worrying
I will learn to deal with my worries in a logical way
I am beginning to feel free from stress and anxiety
Every day I become more and more relaxed
I will let my worry go because I know that obsessing about it doesn’t solve it
I will approach my worries calmly
Letting go of worry is becoming easy
Relaxing my mind is transforming my life
Others are noticing that I am less anxious and worried

 

Natural Affirmations
I am naturally calm
I have a clear and relaxed mind
I can let go of my worries and come back to them later if needed
Letting go of worry is something I can just naturally do
I enjoy relaxing my mind
Letting go of my worries helps me to deal with life more effectively
I love the feeling of calming myself and letting go of all my stresses
I deserve to relax and stop worrying
Staying calm and relaxed is improving the quality of my life
Freeing myself from stress and anxiety will make me healthier and happier

 

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