Emotions: Envy

Envy is not always easy to separate from jealousy. Envy is behind the worst forms of destructiveness. Envy prefers to destroy, jealousy (love mode) prefers to control. Both envy and jealousy make the person seek social company ; but whereas jealousy seeks social involvement, envy lets the person rest content with being a social observer. When envy is dominant in me I like to have afternoon tea in a tea shop and watch the world go by (however, sometimes my mood then changes to jealousy in self-pity mode as loneliness arises).

 

In childhood, envy of the general character traits of a parent appears as a lack of attachment towards that parent (envy is one of the factors that underlie autism). The difference here between hate and envy is that hate can be considered to be a negative attachment, whilst envy destroys and neutralises any attachment so long as the child is in a position of inequality with the parent. [³]

 

Ian Health

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Emotion Anxiety = (fear + vanity)

Anxiety is a cerebral emotion: when it is intense it �fogs� the mind, producing mental tiredness and the incapacity for intellectual work. I feel it most in my eyes as a regular ache, which generates a sensitivity to bright light. When I am writing or typing under a bright light I control the eye-ache by regularly splashing my eyes with cold water, perhaps every half hour or so. Both the mental tiredness and the ache are intensified when combined with any mode of self-pity.

 

In social company, anxiety (in vanity mode) stimulates a compulsive need to speak (I get embarrassed by my silence) or compulsive behaviour (such as smoking, drinking alcohol, nail-biting, over-eating). When I have this fuzzy head at home I usually relax on the settee and doze. The cessation of anxiety can be quite sudden and produces an immediate clearing of the head � I �wake up� from my semi-consciousness. The need for a long sleep time each night is usually due to the presence of anxiety or to a mode of self-pity.

 

Anxiety keeps the person focused on negative emotions ; if I am absorbed in narcissistic joy or jealous love, then if anxiety arises I usually switch out of them into self-pity modes or even hostile feelings.

 

The fear mode of anxiety is generated by a dictatorial conscience, or the �voice of authority�. This voice has two origins.
It can originate from the family setting: the parents� commands become internalised into an oppressive conscience � �do as you are told�. The voice of authority also comes from one�s soul: the soul directs oneself to practise self-control (here the �voice� is not a clear verbal one but more like an intuitive prompting). If I do something that my soul does not like, then I immediately feel a burst of anxiety in my eyes. However, this �voice� is a subtle one and is unlikely to be noticed by a person who has not developed sensitivity.

 

In general, narcissism and jealousy are the two avenues to power, the two ways to express and achieve power. Pride and guilt are the two avenues to ethics. Resentment arises when the person�s sense of idealism is restricted by guilt ; bitterness arises when idealism is restricted by pride.

 

What needs to be accepted is that emotions are not good or bad in themselves, but that the goodness or the badness lies in the context that we experience them and view them. However, since it is common practice to value things rather than contexts, I prefer to label emotions as either positive or negative, rather than as either good or bad.

 

Ian Health

 

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How Love Happens: The Three Components of Relationships

In 1986, Steinberg proposed a theory of triangulation: that defined three seperate elements to a loving relationship:

Passion – the sexual attraction between the two people.

 

  • Intimacy – the communicative bond and trust; perhaps the most important factor of the three in the long term.

 

  • Commitment – a loving relationship requires the short-term commitment of both people in terms of accepting each other as partners, as well as the long-term commitment to each other. Commitment, while required throughout the relationship, is perhaps the least important factor in the long-term, though.
Labelling Love

To what extend does our idea of love evolve from the culture we live? And if we didn’t have a word for this emotion, to what extent would we still feel it?

Hatfield and Walster in 1981 proposed that love is a form of ‘cognitive labelling’ which would suggest that love and, for example, the physiological arousal caused by the injection of adrenaline into the bloodstream, are indistinguishable until you label the emotion as ‘love’.

Companionship vs Romance
Berscheid and Walster (1978) distinguished between companionate love and romantic love. Companionate love tends to extend from ‘liking’; a friendship that evolves over time while the two people’s emotions are stable; a relationship with rewards for both parties, such as having a friend in times of crisis.

Romantic love on the other hand develops more quickly and involves a person posessing strong emotions – passion – for their partner. Novelty is a factor in such relationships, and so, over time, the love may fade, and other emotions involved in a relationship, such as grudges from arguments, also distort the relationship.

So, is your love of a close one just a state of physiological arousal? Are all our emotions simply chemical differences, categorised into love, hate and other feelings by society? Schechter and Singer (1962) aimed to find out if cognitive labelling really was viable with the Suproxin ‘Wonderdrug’ Test:

Schechter and Singer created what they advertised as a vitamin-containing drug, and tested it on participants to find out if chemicals could evoke true emotions. Some participants were given an injection containing epinephrine (adrenaline) that would cause a state of physical arousal (not necessarily an emotion, though) and others were give a simple salt-based compound that would have no significant effect. Some participants were told that the drug would have a significant effect on them, while others were told it would have a limited effect. Others were left with the impression that it would have no effects of physical arousal at all.

The experimenters wanted to see if the participants’ altered physiological state would make them believe their emotions were changing. Participants were left in a room with a confederate (a secret accomplice of the experimenters), who tried to make them either happy (by making paper aeroplanes) or sad (by reacting angrily to a personal questionnaire they’d been asked to complete). Did this make the participants change emotionally and ‘cognitively label’ their state? Yes, those given adrenaline and not told that it would alter their basic state did think they were more emotional.

Dutton and Aron (1974) put participants into a more naturally physically arousing situation. High on a suspension bridge, you might expected to be more excited than on a normal bridge. Participants of Dutton and Aron’s study were asked by a physically attractive interviewer to complete a questionnaire which, unknown to those being asked, measured their sexual arousal level. Those on the suspension bridge who were in a physically aroused state showed more sexual arousal than those in a less exciting place.

So cognitive labelling does indicate that psychological arousal and attraction to another person are linked, but it’s important to remember that not all research supports the theory, and ‘love’ as simply a name for an aroused state; Merañon in 1924 carried out a similar experiment to Schachter and Signer – to arouse participants, and 71% of them said that they felt different physiologically but were unchanged emotionally. The rest of the participants felt unsure that their emotional state was genuinely different, which suggests that there is more to love and other emotional feelings than simple hormonal imbalances.

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Unconscious Ideas and Emotions

The link between the unconscious and emotion.

No feeling is permanent. There is a constant oscillation between the positive and negative feelings. Emotions are constantly changing, in part because feelings change, and in part due to the constant stream of ideas that flow in the unconscious mind. At the conscious and subconscious levels of mind we can focus on an unconscious idea and use it to pursue a trend or theme about something that interests us at that moment. Hence we can make an emotion last whilst we follow that trend.

The difference between the flow of ideas at the conscious and subconscious levels is mainly related to the issue of change. The conscious flow is easy to change, especially when we are in social company, but the subconscious flow seems to have a life of its own and is highly resistant to conscious attempts to change it. In social company or if we are idealistic we can give preference to our conscious ideas, and hence control our conscious emotional response. But on our own, without the influence of idealism, the subconscious mind usually exerts priority in emotional response. If the conscious mind is not dominant, that is, if we do not value what we are doing at any particular moment, then the subconscious mind is dominant (and so we may become subject to uncontrollable moods).

As I show below, emotions can be grouped into complementary pairs. I call these pairs �binaries’. A few lines above I used two examples of binary emotions. I paired anger and fear together, and then love and hate together. Another binary is vanity and self-pity. What determines the choice of either emotion in a pair ? For example, what governs a person, at a particular moment, in their selection of either anger or fear as their response to something? The choice is not a random one. The choice revolves around the dominating influence of value.

We put a value on emotional experience. By either liking or disliking things, relationships, situations, etc we put a value on them. At any particular moment we may either like or dislike something ; but this liking and disliking can take many forms. For example, the way that we like that something may lead us to choose between anger, love or vanity as our response. Anger allows us to dominate the situation ; love enables us to harmonise with other people ; vanity lets us feel important. The way that we dislike it may focus on fear, hate or self-pity.

So at any particular moment we are focusing on a trend of thought, with a relevant emotion being experienced. Then there is some change in the situation that needs an emotional response from us. Sometimes we can consciously choose our response, particularly if the situation is a pleasant one. But more often than not we act subconsciously. The value that we place on the situation at that moment determines which emotion will be felt. For example, if we are feeling discontented, we will place little positive value on our present experience ; then when we have to respond to something we are more likely to choose some form of hostile or fearful response.

As well as putting value on our situations, we also put value on our thoughts and ideas. Now an unconscious idea has two values : it is good or it is bad. The good value is supported by the pleasant feeling, the bad value by the unpleasant feeling. This division leads to two choices. One choice gives rise to one emotion, the other choice to its complement. Hence emotions can be grouped into complementary pairs, or binaries.

In general then, if we are free-wheeling in our thoughts, we can let our emotions be positive or negative according to whether the feeling is positive or negative. Otherwise, by placing value on our experience, we can generate positive or negative emotions as we choose. However, the generation of a positive emotion is often difficult if the feeling that is current is the negative one, and vice versa.

The unconscious idea enables all emotions to be arranged in pairs of complementary opposites. The one exception is that the neutral feeling is unique, it is not part of a binary. It is the basis of equanimity, the ability to be unaffected by any kind of stress. Equanimity should not be confused with indifference or even peace ; indifference is a protective mechanism of withdrawal from responsibility and is underpinned by fear, whilst peace is achieved by repressing internal conflict (that is, conflict that is within the mind of a person).

In psychological language, equanimity is the state of mind which denotes the absence of projection and introjection. When a person uses the mechanisms of projection and introjection, they are making value judgements about the characteristics of other people that they admire or dislike. When they cease making such value judgements, they thereby cease to desire anything of a personal nature. [³]

I list some emotions which are binary to each other :

fear – anger
love – hate
jealousy – narcissism
pride – guilt
vanity – self-pity
resentment – bitterness

Some emotions have an additional complexity: they are compound and consist of two simpler emotions. I call such an emotion either a compound emotion or a �doublet’, and each of the separate emotions within a doublet I call a �mode ‘ of that doublet. For example, guilt comprises the two simpler emotions of self-pity and self-hate. So guilt is experienced as guilt (in the mode of self-pity) or as guilt (in the mode of self-hate).

I list some compound emotions and then I give a table of unconscious ideas that determine emotions.

Table 1: Compound Emotions

Guilt = self-pity + self-hate.
Pride = vanity + hatred of other people.

Narcissism = love + vanity.
Jealousy = love + self-pity.

Resentment = guilt + idealism.
Bitterness = pride + idealism

Repentance = regret + guilt (mode of self-pity).
Sadness = regret + jealousy (mode of self-pity).

Paranoia = fear + pride (mode of vanity).
Anxiety = fear + vanity.

In the compound emotions of guilt, pride, narcissism, and jealousy, only one mode is felt at any one time � they are never experienced simultaneously. For example, guilt is felt as either self-pity or as self-hate.

How do I know that some emotions are compound ones ? Guilt was the first one that I identified. Once I learned to detect guilt by empirical awareness I became puzzled by the fact that it seemed to exhibit contrary impressions. Then I realised that this difficulty could be explained by postulating that guilt consisted of two factors. It then became an empirical task to see if I could detect these two separate factors � and I did.

Now guilt equals self-pity plus self-hate. This arrangement of the two emotions within guilt has three other possible combinations, by taking the binaries of self-pity and self-hate. So if my factorisation of guilt was correct then three other compound emotions should also exist, with their factors being:

self-pity + love

vanity + love

vanity + hate

Eventually I realised through intuition that these compound emotions represented jealousy, narcissism, and pride. Then again I empirically verified that my theorising was correct. The hallmark of a compound emotion is that it produces ambiguous responses ; the ambiguity always falls into two categories, thus indicating that two factors are present and need to be separated.

For example, in sadness there is sorrow (from the regret) plus a sweetness (from the jealousy). When the jealousy factor is highlighted, then I always find that sadness is a lovely emotion in which I often like to linger, whereas the sorrow element makes sadness unpleasant.

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Spirit Guides: A Quick Run Through

The spirit guides are leaders, in respect. Most agree that these guidelines are the souls of those who are sufficient to reincarnated cycle could be released. Because of their experience and insights in this reincarnations are in a position to make life with more wisdom.

How do you know if you have a spirit guide?

Of course, if you will never be able to deal with a mind, claiming that his leader, then the evidence that you have one. The notification shall be in a range of possibilities. Some people say it on their mind is clear guidance in the flesh.

Other forms of communication, in particular the astral projection. When this method is to leave your body and travel in reality clearly. While in this state, you can use your common sense guide. The visualization and meditation can also be the doors of communication between the two worlds.

In many cases, you may never have a direct encounter with the spirit guides. However, this does not mean that you have no instructions. Many people have simply believed the presence of these guidelines in their lives.

If they are in a position to wish his mind through meditation guide or Astral Projection, for example, may know if you have any questions.

Another form of communication is through dreams. Have you ever with a difficult situation or in a dilemma that the next day wake up in the knowledge that you have found a solution? If during May, his spirit guides to communicate with you about your dreams.

Sometimes it is simply the effect of his mind leaders warn that measures be taken, on the other side. For example, if you try to take an important decision, you may want on one side or the other automatically, without thinking.

Native Americans believed for centuries in the minds of animals leaders. In fact, this belief is part of a complex shamanism learn. For them, the animal spirit guides are the source of wisdom. For example, the crow is as a mediator between the world of the living and the dead, because they believe that the soul leads to another world. They have the wisdom of the ancestors and life without fear of the unknown.

Although these beliefs are strongly influenced by the many people today, most people have seen, are by their spiritual leaders of the people in form.

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Communications From the Other Side

I fully intended to talk about Aliens in this article, but I realized that I had unintentionally omitted some of the most important material about spirit “communications” that I had intended to include in the article on Ghosts, Spirits and Aliens, so that will be our next subject and I will take this opportunity to add this to the preceding material as it should have been a part of it.

This is something that you will undoubtedly be interested in that I suppose falls under the category of “spirits” and that is communication between recently departed “survival personalities”, those who have recently died and those close to them still focused on the physical plane. It only makes sense that those communications are generally between those with very strong emotional feelings for each other, whether family members or others held close. The old adage that “Love is Eternal” is very true indeed.

Those kinds of communications do exist of course, and I wanted to point out a few things that might help in facilitating contacts with the deceased. You must remember that emotional values are the connective between you and any survival personality and they have not moved away from your reality so much in physical distance, but in psychological distance and that distance is immense in terms of separation. In terms of physical separation, they are as close as next your next door neighbor and it helps to remember that space is an illusion.

I realize that this is a concept that is hard to grasp, but remember, time and space as you apply it in your reality, simply doesn’t exist in the same way in other realities, so separation cannot be measured in terms of distance. In that respect, I can tell you that a survival personality can still observe you and your environment for some time after their death.

Usually, but not always, and each case is different, but usually after the survival personality has passed, there is an initial disorientation for them and some confusion and in some cases the personality may not even realize that he has passed since he will still have a physically appearing “astral” body. Now, don’t think for a minute that this subjective astral form is any less in quality than the physical form that you now have, it is just constructed differently. Remember that even your physical image is a camouflage, an overlay of your subjective form with atomic structure and is no more real than the astral body. It is only indicative of your specialized type of reality; the physical body is temporary and the inner image endures forever.

Once the survival personality has come to terms with his death, he will be met by other close friends, family and acquaintances that have gone before him and are more familiar with the new environment and will help him to adjust during the transition. This is hard to explain, in that these personalities will find themselves in a new dimension that does not recognize a time structure such as yours, yet, this place is a temporary environment and the survival personality will still remain aware of the time significance in the world from which it has recently departed for some time to come, but it simply will not place as much emphasis on times significance on events as you would in your world.

There is then, an optimum time when communications between survival personalities and their families or close friends still in physical reality, and that time is not immediately after the death, but after the personality has had some time to acclimate itself with its new surroundings. Immediately after death, there is usually some confusion, disorientation and also elation at re-uniting with old friends (and I mean really old friends), that the idea of communication with those left behind just doesn’t seem that pressing a matter.

It is important to know that these kinds of telepathic communications between realities cannot be forced to happen at will or imposed on anyone dead or alive, but will usually come as emotional intuitional surprises when least expected, in other words, these types of communications are usually accidental, sparked by emotional thought of the other person. So it is best to recognize the possibility of such contacts and keep your belief system open and flexible with high expectations, but not in any demanding or rigid way. Another very important thing is to “PAY ATTENTION”. These inter-dimensional messages take place quite frequently, but in such an innocuous way that they are usually missed by the intended receiver.

The survival personality will at some point be fully involved in planning a new life experience, either in your world or another so communication will usually take place before the personality begins to lose its affinity for the physical plane through involvement with its new business at hand. When the planning work is done, the details agreed upon, the personality will reincarnate while it still has a fondness for earth’s sunrises and sunsets, seas and forests, friends and family and identities usually choose to return for a new earth experience before one or two hundred years your time, of course by that time you wouldn’t be around to receive those communications anyway and your relative positions may be reversed by then. There is nothing except good sense that would keep an anxious identity from reincarnating within months after its previous death.

In answer to a question many may have, it is possible then, and has been documented countless times in your past, that a reincarnated personality, a new identity in physical terms, returns to a familiar, town or area and feels a certain familiarity with some of the same inhabitants that knew him in his last life. His past friends and family still alive, although all recall of that previous life would have been forgotten by the ego consciousness. Details of these circumstances can be recalled under hypnosis and have been well documented. This is not the usual case however, because the main reason for multiple lives on earth is to provide a variety of experience in new environments with new challenges, new racial and gender experience and not to keep repeating a carbon copy representation of a previous life.

For any identity to wait any longer than a hundred years to reincarnate, the desire for earthly physical existence could wane to the point that physical life would begin to lose its attraction. So the ideal time for you to make contact with a survival personality would be between a few weeks after the passing up to a few years after, and remember, in the after death plane, beginnings and endings, cause and effect and time based appointments have little meaning. If the interval is longer the personality would have most likely moved on to other interests and possibly even another life on earth or even another dimension entirely and from that new platform, communications would be almost impossible. Communications are best made then while the personality is still in the psychic neighborhood.

Survival personalities will not speak their communications with words using tongues and lips as you might expect. They communicate of course, telepathically, by sending complete thought concepts, so these messages from beyond, will come in flashes of instant knowing. It is important to understand that you can’t force these communications; they will come spontaneously, like a small explosion or instant illumination and sometimes at very strange and unexpected times.

These personalities have an advantage that you don’t have, at least for some time in that they can see you even though you can’t see them, so they know what is going on with you and your life for some time after physical death and they are interested in communicating with you. You can communicate your feelings through the use of thought-words, but emotional feelings will be paramount in the contacts and there is usually a deep desire to initiate these contacts by the survival personality, to assure those left behind that everything is just fine with them. It is quite true to say that death is easier on the person doing the dying than it is on the ones left behind.

I have said this before and I know it is hard for some to believe, but no one has ever died who was not ready to die. Death is not forced on anyone, but is a necessary progression, a step taken, the reasons well known by the inner self and soul. When the identity cannot handle any more data in one lifetime, when all challenges have been met and experienced in one way or another, then the available energy previously made available by the soul/entity decreases, the entity loses interest and turns its attention in other directions, causing the physical image to blur in its materialized form, exposing weaknesses and lessening psychic focus never before experienced.

You know how I love analogies, so imagine if you will, what happens when you overload your computer with too much data, it shuts down, so in other words, the personality over his lifetime reaches a point where he essentially experiences an overload of data and switches into a minimum maintenance mode, sensing that no more real progress can be gained in this one lifetime, and there is a lessening of purpose within the personality. The personality therefore sensing that no real beneficial creativity or progress will be made, shuts down “temporarily” and hits the “Reset Button”. There is no such thing as failure in any lifetime, just some things not yet fully explored; they will be explored again and again until you get the right answers, and there are many more reset buttons to push.

The famous baseball player Yogi Berra once said “It ain’t over till it’s over”, and in cosmic terms, “It ain’t ever over.” There are more lives waiting in the wings.

By: William Allan

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How to have Inner Peace

To meditate is to achieve peace of mind and calmness. No matter how chaotic and rowdy the rest of the world maybe, one can always achieve inner peace. In this world where almost everyone is always on the go working, doing house chores, paying bills, and many others, there are also now a lot of stress relievers and stress management activities. Many of these offer relaxation and release but not all of them help people achieve inner peace. The only way to achieve it is by being somewhere quiet; somewhere you can get in touch with your inner thoughts. One of the most popular methods would be meditation.

Exercises today do not require fast and sharp movements because they focus more on breathing and calming the mind and body. Activities like yoga have allotted time for meditation at the end of each session. It allows participants to free their minds so that they can forget about worries other negativities. For many, the problems are not forgotten. The participants simply take on a new perspective or way of viewing his life.

There are many different kinds of meditation. Some of them focus on breathing and some follow principles of “enlightened” people who have achieved spiritual fulfillment in the past. There are also those that specifically aim for inner peace. If this is what you want to achieve, there are very basic steps that you have to follow. Meditating for inner peace would only take a minimum of 10 minutes every morning. It only involves thinking about positive thoughts that help calm and put the mind at ease. Participants would only need to tell themselves how calm and peaceful they truly are. Once the peaceful thoughts start flowing, the individual must try to experience them until he can tell himself that he has the ability to enter a peaceful state of mind. When he feels that his mind is already filled with peace, what follows is sending the same peace to the rest of the world. Throughout the whole activity, one must feel relaxed as inner peace consumes his mind. At this point, anything that brings stress must be left out instead of being allowed to get in. It’s all about the core of one’s being having peace of mind.

Reminding oneself of all these every morning will surely help attain peace of mind little by little. There will be a fresher and more positive state of mind, leading to a better personality and life.

Meditating for inner peace is probably one of the most affordable ways to reduce or remove stress. It helps people get in touch of their innermost thoughts, even those that they haven’t paid attention to. Through this, one gets to reflect on the bigger picture of his life in general. He gets to have a new perspective in every aspect of his existence. Most of all, he gets to have peace of mind, which is something that people try so hard attaining.  In short, both his mind and body will enter inner peacefulness.

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Meditation : Peace of Mind Daily meditation to attain peace of mind

The act of meditation for at least 15 minutes in the early morning will have a positive effect on your mind during the entire day.

Upon waking have these positive thoughts

I am a peaceful soul, my aim today is to have a peaceful mind and radiate peace to every person that I come into contact with.

Try to experience the stillness of mind of being a peaceful soul.
as other thoughts emerge in the mind do not judge or focus on them but repeat …………

I am a peaceful soul ………….I am a peaceful soul …………

My mind is filled with peace ………….. I radiate peace to the world ……………

I feel the gentle waves of peace flowing across my mind ……….

As these peaceful thoughts emerge in my mind I feel the stillness and silence envelopes my mind ……………..

I am the peaceful soul …… I am a peaceful loving soul …………

My mind feels light and free from worries ………..

I realize my real nature is peace ……….

Peace of mind in my true nature ……

Peaceful thoughts flow through the mind and I feel the self becoming light …………………

I am a being of light and peace shining like a star …………………..

I radiate peace and light to the world …………………

The light and peace envelopes me and the waves of peace and light shine from my mind like a lighthouse ……………………………………..

I continue to radiate peace to the world as I fill my mind with peace love and light ………

through this peace i feel love and benevolence for all souls ……

I see on the screen of my mind a radiant light and this light feels gentle and soothing ……

I the peaceful soul feel at peace with myself, this stillness of mind enables me to feel content and complete …………

This is the wonderful journey of self discovery.

Peace of mind using meditation is a process that involves an extended time period and patience is required.

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Welcome to Emotional Intelligence Guide

from: christine Gray

Emotional intelligence is the ability to become sensitive to understand one’s own emotions and the emotions that observe from other people. This in the end will be consciously monitored to serve as determining factors in creating decisions and in putting up reactions to various stimuli.

For long, man had a common perception that emotions have nothing to do with success. On extremes, many believed that they do not only interact negatively with our decision-making but may also cause us to fail.

There are various intelligence types that human has. And lack of one doesn’t actually imply failure in the general picture of life. Some are naturally endowed with higher I.Q. scores that make them in the advantage of having larger storage for information. Other people, on the other hand, have the special ability to truly discern themselves. This is what they call intrapersonal intelligence.

Since we are dealing with the various aspects of emotions, it is pretty obvious that there is no gray line between emotions and emotional intelligence.

Emotions affect decision-making, our reactions to things, our moods, our sentiments, our general disposition in a given situation. Oftentimes, solutions do not come from the intellect. Too much thinking may even cause paralysis of the mind. This is largely due to the fact that when we think too much for a solution, our minds seem to clutter with answers that point to nowhere but to the beginning. Analysis takes time and when it does, it may allow time for the aggravation of problems.

It is not to discourage anyone from analyzing personal problems clearly. However, we want you not to enclose yourself with the idea of I.Q. alone. There is more to intelligence than using your cranial capacities in creating decisions.

We weren’t inherently equipped with emotions though. When we were born, we were likely to be blank white pages where various stimulus must be written before we ever find the concept of reactions to emotions. Only as we age and therefor exposed to spectrums of experiences do we learn to react with the different types of emotions.

This is probably the reason why when we were children, we had no fear or anxiety over tripping on the floor or doing something dangerous. After all, we still have no idea what fear is or what is anxiety or what are dangerous experiences.

Knowing the degree of your emotions and the various reactions that are created during specific conditions. Having enough knowledge of determining how well you cope up with given stimulation. And knowing what are the factors that will create the rise of emotions in you will all be helpful in gaining new insight of yourself.

Emotions are inevitable parts of our existence. And experts in the field have learned to evaluate emotion intelligence by determining its five domains.

Management of emotions
This generally covers the ability to handle one’s emotions to fit a given condition. This also entails the proper mixture of emotions and the realization of what caused a specific reaction to arise.

Self-awareness
This is different from self criticism mainly in the manner by which specific emotions are determined. It is the systematic observance of oneself to recognize feelings and moods as they happen.

Self motivation
This is evident in delayed gratification, in positive use of emotions to channel emotions into goals, and in over-all self control.

Empathy
This is basically the sensitivity to other people’s feelings and perspectives of things.

Handling of relationships
This is one dimension of social intelligence, which is closely intertwined with emotional intelligence since it covers the management of emotions to retain and harmonize relationships.

Christine Gray is a recognized authority on the subject of Emotional Intelligence. Her web site http://www.SelfImprovementsGuide.com provides a wealth of informative articles and resources on everything you will need to know about Emotional Intelligence.

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The Best Bipolar Videos of the Year

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