15 Clutter Buster Routines for any family

15 Clutter Busting Routines For Any Family

WRITTEN by JOSHUA BECKER ·


Several years ago, my family and I decided to start living a minimalist life. Since then, we have tried to remove all of the possessions from our home that are not essential. In doing so, we have found new opportunity to spend our time, energy, and finances on the things that are most important to us.
Also, we became far more observant about how our things rob us of our precious freedom. We have learned that just like most families, no matter how hard we try to stop it, stuff inevitably continues to enter our home… nearly every single day.
So we work hard to remove any clutter that begins to accumulate in our home. Along the way, we have picked up (and try to practice) some helpful clutter busting routines.
Here are 15 Clutter Busting Routines we have found helpful in our home:
1. Place junk mail immediately into a recycling bin. Take note of the natural flow of mail into your home. Placing a recycling container prior to your “mail drop-off zone” can catch most of that junk mail before it even reaches your counter. And as an added bonus, you’ll begin to look through less of it too (think advertisements).
2. Store kitchen appliances out of sight. Toasters, can openers, coffee makers… they all take up space. And while it may not seem like much space by looking at them, the first time you prepare dinner on a counter without them present, you’ll quickly notice the difference. If you think it’s going to be a hassle putting them away every morning, don’t. It takes less than 6 seconds to put each appliance away… once you’ve found a home for it that is.
3. Remove 10 articles of clothing from your closet today. Go ahead. If you are typical, it’ll take you roughly 5 minutes to grab 10 articles of clothing that you no longer wear and throw them in a box. Your remaining clothes will fit better in your closet. Your closet will be able to breathe again. And if you write “Goodwill” on the box when you are done, you’ll feel better about yourself as soon as you drop it off. Most likely, you’ll find yourself inspired to do it again.
4. Fold clean clothes / Remove dirty clothes immediately. The way I handle clothes these days is one of the biggest clutter changes I have made in my life. Unfortunately, I used to be a “throw-them-on-the-floor” guy. But now I handle each one right when I take it off. Dirty clothes down the clothes chute. Clean clothes back to the hanger or drawer. That’s it. It’s really that simple. How do the dirty ones magically appear clean and folded in my closet you ask… I’m not sure. You’ll need to ask my wife.
5. Kids’ bedroom toys live in the closet. Not on the floor. Not on the dresser. But in the closet. And when the closet gets too full of toys, it’s time to make some room. Hint, it’s usually safe to remove the toys at the bottom of the pile.
6. Kids pick up their toys each evening. This has countless benefits: 1) It teaches responsibility. 2) It helps kids realize that more isn’t always better. 3) The home is clean for mom and dad when the kids are in bed. 4) It’s a clear indication that the day has come to an end. Gosh, you’d think with all these benefits it would be easier for us to get the kids to do it…
7. Fill your containers for the garbage man. Use every trash pick-up day as an excuse to fill your recycling containers and/or garbage cans. Grab a box of old junk from the attic… old toys from the toy room… old food from the pantry… old paperwork from the office. If once a week is too often, do this exercise every other week. You’ll get the hang of it. And may even begin to enjoy trash morning… okay, I won’t go that far.
8. Halve decorations. No seriously, I mean it. Grab a box and walk through your living room. Remove decorations from shelves, tables, and walls that aren’t absolutely beautiful or meaningful. You may like it better than you think. If not, you can always put them back. But I’d bet my wife’s old high school yearbooks that you won’t return all of them.
9. Wash dishes right away. Hand washing some dishes takes less time than putting them in the dishwasher. This applies to cups, breakfast bowls, dinner plates, and silverware. If hand washed right after eating, it takes hardly any time at all. If however, hand washing is just not an option for you, be sure to put used dishes in the dishwasher right away. Nobody likes walking into a kitchen with dishes piled up in the sink or on the counter… and it’s even less fun eating in there.
10. Unmix and match cups, bowls, plates, and silverware. Uniformity makes for better stacking, storing, and accessing. If there is a souvenir cup or mug that is so important to you that you can’t live without it, that’s perfectly fine. Just don’t keep 5 of them. Mom, any chance you are reading this?
11. Keep your desk clear and clean. Drawers can adequately house most of the things needed to keep your desk functional. And a simple filing system should keep it clear of paper clutter. The next person who sits down to use the desk will thank you.
12. Store your media out of sight. Make a home for dvd’s, cd’s, video games, and remote controls. They don’t need to be in eyesight, you use them less than you think. And if you remove them from your eyesight… maybe you’ll use them even less.
13. Always leave room in your coat closet. There are two reasons why coats, shoes, and outerwear keep ending up scattered throughout your home rather than in your closet. The first reason is because your coat closet is so full, it’s a hassle to put things away and retrieve them quickly. Leave room on the floor, on the hangers, and on the shelves for used items to be quickly put away and retrieved. The second reason is because you have kids… but you’re on your own with that one.
14. Keep flat surfaces clear. Kitchen counters, bathroom counters, bedroom dressers, tabletops… After you clear them the first time, keeping them clean takes daily effort. Receipts, coins, and paper clutter just keep coming and coming… it’s just easier the second time around.
15. Finish a magazine or newspaper. Process or recycle immediately. If you’ve finished the paper product, process it and rid yourself of its clutter immediately. Good recipe in there? Put it in your recipe box and recycle the rest. Good article that your husband will enjoy? Clip it and recycle.  Article that your friend will enjoy? Clip it, mail it, and recycle (or better yet, search for it online and send it that way). Coupon too good to pass up? Cut it out and recycle. Stacks of magazines and newspapers serve little purpose in life but to clutter a room.

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20 Habits happy people have but never talk about

All of this has given us keen insight into the specific behaviors that make human beings happy.  We’ve literally watched people go from feeling down in the dumps to being on top of the world in a matter of weeks, simply by making subtle, effective changes to their daily habits.
Not surprisingly though, once these people get it figured out, their “happiness habits” become second nature to them, and thus, they never talk about them.  Bystanders may witness their public displays of contentment, but remain clueless as to the source of their happiness.  So that’s precisely what I want to discuss today – the habits happy people have, but never talk about.

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[*]They don’t get caught up in other people’s drama. – Never, ever create unnecessary drama, and don’t put up with those who spew drama your way.  The happiest people I’ve ever met care less about what random people say about them, especially if their remarks are rude.  In fact, happy people are often thankful for all the rude, obnoxious, and difficult people they meet in life, because these people serve as important reminders of how NOT to be.  They simply smile and walk the other way.  I challenge you to follow in their footstep.

[*]They give to others whenever they are able. – While giving is considered an unselfish act (and it is), giving can also be more beneficial for the giver than the receiver.  In many cases, providing social support is actually more beneficial to our happiness than receiving it.  Happy people know this, which is precisely why they are always looking for ways to help others, while unhappy people stand around asking, “What’s in it for me?”

[*]They nurture their important relationships. – Finding Flow,an interesting psychology book on happiness, reveals national survey data showing that when someone claims to have five or more friends with whom they can discuss important problems, they are 60% more likely to say they are happy.  The number of friends isn’t the important aspect here; it’s the effort you put into your relationships that matters.  Studies show that even the best relationships dissolve over time; so a close connection with someone is something you need to continually earn and never take for granted.

[*]They leave space to love themselves too. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone else too much, and completely forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, nurture others, but don’t forget about yourself.  Happy people know self love isn’t selfish.  They put their needs first because they see the power of showing up fully for others.  When you take care of yourself, you are better able to help the people you care about.  If you sacrifice all your needs in order to help them, you’re only showing up as a shell of your true self.

[*]They focus on effectiveness over popularity. – Never confuse popularity with effectiveness.  Being popular means you’re liked for awhile.  Being effective means you’ve made a difference.  And it’s this feeling of knowing you made a difference that matters in the end.

[*]They say “no” when they need to. – Saying “yes” to everything puts you on the fast track to being miserable.  Feeling like you’re doing busywork is often the result of saying “yes” to too much.  We all have obligations, but a comfortable pace can only be found by properly managing your yeses.  So stop saying “yes” when you want to say “no.”  You can’t always be agreeable; that’s how people take advantage of you.   Sometimes you have to set clear boundaries.

[*]They sincerely practice gratitude. – Gratitude is arguably the king of happiness.  What’s the research say?  The more a person is inclined to gratitude, the less likely he or she is to be depressed, anxious, lonely, envious, or neurotic.”  Bottom line:  Consider how very fortunate you are.  Consider it every day.  The more you count your blessings, the more blessings there will be to count, and the happier you will be.

[*]They cultivate optimism. – The happiest people do not live with a certain set of circumstances, but rather with a certain set of attitudes.  They have the ability to manufacture their own optimism.  No matter what the situation, the successful diva is the gal who will always find a way to put an optimistic spin on it.  She knows failure only as an opportunity to grow and learn a new lesson from life.  People who think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities, especially in trying times.

[*]They don’t attach themselves to every success and failure. – Happy, successful people are often successful in the long run for one simple reason: they think about success and failure differently.  They don’t take everything that goes wrong personally, and they don’t get a big head when everything goes right either.  Follow in their footsteps.  Be a humble, life-long learner.  Never let success get to your head and never let failure get to your heart.

[*]They develop strategies for coping in hard times. – A happy life and a meaningful life are not necessarily the same thing.  It’s hard to be happy when tragedy strikes, for instance.  But who lives longer and fares better after problems?  I’ve witnessed and experienced enough hardships to confidently know the answer: those who find benefits in their struggles.  How you respond to the hard times is what shapes your character.  Remember, you become what you believe.  Look at things objectively.  Find the lesson and move forward.  Don’t let a hard lesson harden your heart for too long.

[*]They see rejection as protection from what’s not meant to be.– Rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough; it means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer.  It means you have more time to improve your thing – to build upon your ideas, to perfect your craft, and indulge deeper into the work that moves you.  Happy people know this and they don’t take rejection personally.  The guy who didn’t call back, the potential job that didn’t pan out, or the business loan rejection letter are all universal signs that it wasn’t the best fit.  Trust that something better suited for you is on its way.

[*]They are focused on the present. – Never let your past dictate who you are today, but let it be a lesson that’s part of who you will become tomorrow.  No regrets.  No looking back in anger.  Just hold on to life and move forward.  We have no way of knowing what lies ahead, but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – that’s what makes life worth living today.  Happy people know this, and that’s precisely why they make the most of the present.

[*]They dedicate time to meaningful pursuits. – When the Guardian recently asked a hospice nurse about the Top Five Regrets of Dying, one of the most common regrets was that people regretted not being true to their dreams.  When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it’s easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.  Most people do not honor even half of their dreams and end up dying knowing that it was due to choices they made, or didn’t make.  Good health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.  As they say, there are seven days in the week, and “someday” isn’t one of them.

[*]They are fully committed to their top priorities. – If you’re interested in something, you will do what is convenient.  If you’re committed to something, you will do whatever it takes.  Period.  And ultimately, it’s commitment that creates outcomes worth smiling about.

[*]They embrace discomfort for mastery of a desired skill. – Struggle is the evidence of progress, and happy people live by this.  They generally have a “signature strength” they are motivated to practice, even if the learning process is sometimes stressful.  Why?  Because they feel happy and satisfied when they look back on the progress they’ve made.  The bottom line is that being terrible at something is the first step to being pretty darn good at it. The rewards of becoming something great at something in the long run far outweigh the short-term stress of mastery.

[*]They take care of their physical health. – There’s no getting around it: no matter how much you think you dislike exercise, it will make you feel better if you stick with it.  If you don’t have your physical energy in good shape, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected.  In fact, did you know that recent studies conducted on people who were battling depression showed that consistent exercise raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft?  Even better, six months later the people who participated in exercise were less likely to relapse because they had a higher sense of self-accomplishment and self-worth.

[*]They spend money on experiences, rather then needless stuff.– Happy people are often mindful of spending money on physical items, opting instead to spend much of their extra money on experiences.  “Experiential purchases” tend to make us happier for two key reasons: 1. Great experiences improve over time when we reminisce about them.  2. Experiences are often social events that get us out of our house and interacting with people we care about.

[*]They savor life’s little joys. – Happiness is a how, not a what – a mindset, not a destination.  Happiness is enjoying all the small things, while chasing after the big ones.  Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy.  It’s easy in a world of wild stimuli and omnipresent movement to forget to embrace life’s enjoyable experiences.  When we neglect to appreciate, we rob the moment of its magic.  It’s the simple things in life that can be the most rewarding if we remember to fully experience them.

[*]They embrace the impermanence of life. – Just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.  Happy people know this to be true – everything has a time and place.  Relationships, jobs and experiences are all part of a bigger plan.  As we grow older and wiser, we begin to realize what we need and what we need to leave behind.  Sometimes there are things in our lives that aren’t meant to stay.  Sometimes the changes we don’t want are the changes we need to grow.  And sometimes walking away is a step forward.  (Read The Uenthered Soul.)

[*]They live a life they actually want to live. – This final point basically ties it all together.  One of the most common complaints Angel and I hear from coaching clients is: “I wish I was brave enough to live a life I want to live, not the life everyone else expects me to live.”  Don’t do this to yourself.  What other people think – especially those you don’t even know – doesn’t matter.  Your hopes, your dreams, your goals… matter!  Make choices that feel right.  Surround yourself with people who support and care not for the “you” they want you to be, but for the real you.  Make true friends and stay in touch with them.  Say things you really want to say to the people who need to hear them.  Express your feelings.  Stop and smell the roses.  And most of all, realize that happiness in most situations is a choice.

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Afterthoughts

By compiling this list I’m not suggesting that these are the only keys to happiness, I’m simply shedding light on some common habits that can make all the difference in the world.  A great deal of human happiness is due to intentional activity.  The books I’ve mentioned in this post, and in other posts, provide scientific evidence proving that it is possible for us to significantly increase our happiness simply by altering what we choose to do every day.  And much of what we do, we do on autopilot based on our habits.
As Elbert Hubbar once said, “Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.”

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The bottom line of Diagnosis

The “bottom line” of diagnosis

If your depressions are complicated; if you have mood swings, but not “mania”, you can still be “bipolar enough” to need a treatment that’s more like the treatments we use in more easily recognized Bipolar Disorder. You’ll read here about forms of depression  which do not have “mania” to make them stand out as different, yet are not plain depression either. For these people, Depression is  by far the main symptom, including especially sleeping too much, extreme fatigue, and lack of motivation. What makes bipolar depression different is the presence of something else as well.
But that “something else” often does not look anything like mania. “Hypomania”, which you’ll learn about here, can show up as extreme insomnia, irritability, agitation/anxiety, and difficulty concentrating.  And finally, some people can have some bipolarity without any hypomania at all. Really. You’ll see references to mood experts who have shown all these things as you go.
Wait a minute: isn’t there concern about overdiagnosis of bipolar disorder? Yes, we’ll talk about that too, after you’ve learned some basics.

What happened to “manic-depressive”? What’s “Bipolar II”?

Somewhere along the way you probably learned about manic-depressive illness: episodes of mania, and episodes of severe depression. Here are the symptoms of “mania”.  Not that you have these, as such; the lack of them is the main point here. Hang on.

 

  • Mood much better than normal
  • Rapid speech
  • Little need for sleep
  • Racing thoughts, trouble concentrating
  • Continuous high energy
  • Overconfidence
  • Delusions (often grandiose, but including paranoid)

What happened to “manic-depressive”? As our understanding of bipolar disorder has grown, the naming system has changed as well. Recently the concept of a “mixed state” of bipolar disorder, in which manic symptoms and depressive symptoms are found at the same time, was added. Obviously this changes the understanding of manic-depressive illness from one in which the two mood states alternate, to one in which they can co-occur! Things are getting more complicated.
Psychiatry has a diagnostic “rule book” that lists the symptoms people must have in order to meet the definition of a particular “disorder”, called the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual. The most recent edition came out in 2013, the “DSM 5”. If much of what you read below seems to describe you well, but someone tells you “you don’t have bipolar disorder”, it could be that they are using a strict interpretation of the DSM rules. This is a highly controversial area in psychiatry. Even the validity of the DSM itself is now controversial. (For examples of this, see my page on DSM SPECTRUM DIAGNOSIS).
Technically Bipolar II describes a pattern in which patients experience “hypomania” (to be discussed in detail below), alternating with episodes of severe depression. However, one of the most experienced professionals in this field, who has bipolar disorder herself, has criticized the DSM as too limited:

“The clinical reality of manic-depressive illness is far more lethal and infinitely more complex than the current psychiatric nomenclature, bipolar disorder, would suggest. Cycles of fluctuating moods and energy levels serve as a background to constantly changing thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. The illness encompasses the extremes of human experience. Thinking can range from florid psychosis, or “madness,” to patterns of unusually clear, fast and creative associations, to retardation so profound that no meaningful mental activity can occur. Behavior can be frenzied, expansive, bizarre, and seductive, or it can be seclusive, sluggish, and dangerously suicidal. Moods may swing erratically between euphoria and despair or irritability and desperation. The rapid oscillations and combinations of such extremes result in an intricately textured clinical picture.” (Kay Jameson p.h.d.)

I arrived at the same conclusion from listening to patients describe their symptoms. When I used this broader conception to guide treatment, people who had struggled for years often got much better.
Yet when I tried to explain this to some of my colleagues, they thought I was a “bipolar wacko”. That’s how this website got started, and why you’ll see so many reference links. I needed to show that these were not my ideas alone, but rather those of mood experts around the world (it also seemed like a handy way to explain all this to my patients without saying the same thing over and over!) For example, everything you will read below can be found in a review by two mood experts, except that their version is written in full medical jargon.
Even the International Society for Bipolar Disorders has advocated a change in diagnostic procedure, moving beyond the DSM, using what we’ve learned in the last decade.  See Ghaemi and collegues; if you look closely you’ll see that my name is on the list of co-authors. I was honored to be invited to participate and write for this 2008 update on bipolar diagnosis guidelines. I was the lead author on the “Bipolar Spectrum” paper. Its content is reflected below.

What’s “Bipolar II”?

Depression for sure. Depression far more than anything else. And then there’s this other little part.  The technical name is misleading, and causes all sorts of trouble, so careful, don’t get thrown off by it.  We’re talking about a very small amount (sometimes larger) of manic-side symptoms:

 

  • Mood better than normal
  • Rapid speech
  • Dramatically reduced sleep
  • Racing thoughts, trouble concentrating
  • Continuous high energy
  • Overconfidence

People with Bipolar II don’t have mania. They don’t have “psychosis” (loss of contact with reality). They don’t have extreme behaviors that people think are “crazy”.  They do have phases that their family and friends recognize as “not your usual self”:  something unusual along the lines of the bullets above.  Notice that “delusions” are gone from the earlier list.
Another variation less severe than Bipolar II is the combination of hypomanic phases with separate phases of mild depression.  This is called “cyclothymia”. Getting confused? I certainly was, until I began to think of these variations as points on a continuous spectrum. I hope the following discussion will impress you as simpler.

What is the “mood spectrum?”

Until very recently, depression and “manic-depressive illness” were understood as completely independent: a patient either had one or the other. Now the two are seen by most mood specialists as two extremes on a continuum, with variations found at all points in between, even though only some points have names (e.g. Ghaemi; Pies; Moller; BirMaer; SKeppar; Mackinnon; Angst  Cassano; my ISBD in 2008; and 2014 updates.)

On the left, the “unipolar” extreme represents straightforward depression with no complications. There are many forms of depression, of course (see  “What kinds of Depressions are there“). The depressions discussed further below are of a more genetic, or “chemical” nature; versus those of a more situational type, like losing a loved one. Situational depressions may respond well to time or therapy and not require “bipolar” thinking.
On the right, the “manic-depressive” extreme is defined by the presence of manic episodes, just the kind that most people have seen or heard of:  full delusional mania. But in between these extremes is a large area which some mood experts think might be the most common form of bipolar disorder: the green zone below.Angst

Got all that?  It gets trickier yet.  Consider the points A and B on this spectrum:
Point A on the continuum describes people who have a complex depression but who still respond well to antidepressant medication or psychotherapy. Around point B, however, there is some sort of threshold where these approaches are no longer completely or continuously effective: either they don’t work at all, offer only partial relief, or help for a while then “stop working” (which may account for some or much of “Prozac poop-out”, now regarded as a non-manic marker of bipolar disorder, described below).
Until 1994 and the publication of the DSM-IV, there was no official name for all the variations betweenB and the “manic-depressive” extreme. It was as though these variations did not exist. In the minds of a few, they still don’t, including some psychiatrists who have not adopted this new “spectrum” way of thinking about diagnosis. The DSM does not describe this “spectrum” concept. In it, the entire span between blue and green is still “Major Depression”, the same as the violet end to your left. Only the orange and red zones are clearly “bipolar”.
Light green and yellow is BP NOS, Bipolar Not Otherwise Specified (or in the DSM5: BP-NEC, Not Elsewhere Classified). That diagnosis means you have something that looks like bipolar disorder but does not meet the criteria for BP II or BP I. Isn’t it simpler just to think of it as a continuum? That is much closer to reality. We see all sorts of variations in between these named points on the graph above.

What do “bipolar variations” look like?

Warning: this is controversional territory. Ironically, your diagnosis could be determined more by the professional whom you see than the symptoms you have. Really. Read that again. This happens all the time. If your therapist or nurse practitioner or doctor uses a DSM framework, and you don’t meet criterial for bipolar disorder, then you just don’t have bipolar disorder at all. Period.
On the other hand, if your therapist/NP/etc thinks in terms of a “spectrum” of bipolarity, then you could get a bipolar label that someone else might think was “overdiagnosis”. Starts to sound kind of ridiculous, doesn’t it?  But a lot of energy becomes focused here. “Bipolar” carries more stigma than “depression”. Many believe that antidepressants are less risky than mood stabilizers (that’s not so clear either, in my view). So the “yes-or-no” view is still very powerful. You could easily be told “you don’t have bipolar disorder” when someone else has said you do.  The solution is to learn more. Read on.
Roller coaster depression
Many people have forms of depression in which their symptoms vary a lot with time: “crash” into depression, then up into doing fine for a while, then “crash” again — sometimes for a reason, but often for no clear reason at all. They feel like they are on some sort of mood “roller coaster”. They wonder if they have “manic-depression”. But, most people know someone or have heard of someone who had a “manic” episode: decreased need for sleep, high energy, risky behaviors, or even grandiose delusions (“I can make millions with my ideas”; “I have a mission in space”; “I’m a special representative for God”). So they think “well, I can’t have that — I’ve never had a manic episode”.
However, a spectrum view of mood disorders  invites you to reconsider. Hypomania doesn’t look or feel at all like full delusional mania in some patients. Sometimes there is just a clear sense of something cyclic going on. (For a striking version of this, read a patient’s count).
Some mood disorder experts consider depression that occurs repeatedly to have a high likelihood of having a manic phase at some point Fawcet, especially if the first depression occurred before age twenty. Geller, Rao These two features–repeated recurrence, and early onset–are also included among the non-manic markers below: not enough to make a diagnosis, but suggestive, especially if they occur with several other such signs  (even if “hypomania” is not detectable at all).
Depression with profound anxiety
Many people live with anxiety so severe, their depression is not the main problem. They seem to handle the periods of low energy, as miserable as they are. Often they sleep for 10, 12, even 14 hours a day during those times. But the part they can’t handle is the anxiety: it isn’t “good energy”. Many say they feel as though they just have too much energy pent up inside their bodies. They can’t sit still. They pace. And worst of all, their minds “race” with thoughts that go over and over the same thing to no purpose. Or they fly from one idea to the next so fast their thoughts become “unglued”, and they can’t think their way from A to C let alone A to Z.
When this is severe, people who enjoy books can find themselves completely unable to read: they just go over and over the same paragraph and it doesn’t “sink in”. They will get some negative idea in their head and go around and around with it until it completely dominates their experience of the world. Usually these “high negative energy” phases come along with severely disturbed sleep (see Depression with Severe Insomnia, below). Thoughts about suicide are extremely common and the risk may be high.Fawcett
Depressive episodes with irritable episodes
Many people with depression go through phases in which even they can recognize that their anger is completely out of proportion to the circumstance that started it. They “blow up” over something trivial. Those close to them are very well aware of the problem, of course. Many women can experience this as part of “PMS“. As their mood problems become more severe, they find themselves having this kind of irritability during more and more of their cycle. Similarly, when they get better with treatment, often the premenstrual symptoms are the “last to go”. Others can have this kind of cyclic irritability without any relationship to hormonal cycles. Many men with bipolar variations say they have problems with anger or rage.
Depression that doesn’t respond to antidepressants (or gets worse, or “poops out”)
Many people have repeated episodes of depression. Sometimes the first several episodes respond fairly well to antidepressant medication, but after a while the medications seem to “stop working”. For others, no antidepressant ever seems to work. And others find that some antidepressants seem to make them feel terrible: not just mild side effects, but severe reactions, especially severe agitation. These people feel like they’re “going crazy”. Usually at this time they also have very poor sleep. Many people have the odd experience of feeling the depression actually improve with antidepressants, yet overall —perhaps even months later —they somehow feel worse overall. In most cases this “worse” is due to agitation, irritability, and insomnia.
In some cases, an antidepressant works extremely well at first, then “poops out”.Byrne The benefits usually last several weeks, often months, and occasionally even years before this occurs. When this occurs repeatedly with different antidepressants, that may mark a “bipolar” disorder even when little else suggests the diagnosis.SHarma
Depression with periods of severe insomnia
Finally, there are people with depression whose most noticeable symptom is severe insomnia. These people can go for days with 2-3 hours of sleep per night. Usually they fall asleep without much delay, but wake up 2-4 hours later and the rest of the night, if they get any more sleep at all, is broken into 15-60 minute segments of very restless, almost “waking” sleep. Dreams can be vivid, almost real. They finally get up feeling completely unrested. Note that this is not “decreased need for sleep” (the Bipolar I pattern). These people want desperately to sleep better and are very frustrated.

Non-manic markers of bipolarity? Even with no hypomania at all?

You have probably figured it out by now: making a diagnosis of bipolar disorder can be pretty tricky sometimes!  You’re about to read a list of eleven more factors that have been associated with
bipolar disorder. None of these factors “clinches” the diagnosis. They are suggestive of bipolarity, but not sufficient to establish it. They are best regarded as markers which suggest considering bipolar disorder as a possible explanation for symptoms. They are not a scoring system, where you might think “the more I have of these, the more likely it is that I have bipolar disorder.” That way of thinking about these factors has not been tested.
Here’s the list of items which are found with bipolar disorder more often than you would expect by chance alone. The particular list below is adapted from a landmark article by Drs. Ghaemi and Goodwin and Ko.  (Drs. Goodwin and Ghaemi are among the most respected authorities on bipolar diagnosis in the world.
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[*]The patient has had repeated episodes of major depression (four or more; seasonal shifts in mood are also common).

[*]The first episode of major depression occurred before age 25 (some experts say before age 20, a few before age 18; most likely, the younger you were at the first episode, the more it is that bipolar disorder, not “unipolar”, was the basis for that episode).

[*]A first-degree relative (mother/father, brother/sister, daughter/son) has a diagnosis of bipolar disorder.

[*]When not depressed, mood and energy are a bit higher than average, all the time (“hyperthymicpersonality”).

[*]When depressed, symptoms are “atypical”: extremely low energy and activity; excessive sleep (e.g. more than 10 hours a day); mood is highly reactive to the actions and reactions of others; and (the weakest such sign) appetite is more likely to be increased than decreased.  Some experts think that carbohydrate craving and night eating are variants of this appetite effect.

[*]Episodes of major depression are brief, e.g. less than 3 months.

[*]The patient has had psychosis (loss of contact with reality) during an episode of depression.

[*]The patient has had severe depression after giving birth to a child (“postpartum depression“).

[*]The patient has had hypomania or mania while taking an antidepressant (remember, severe
irritability, difficulty sleeping, and agitation may — but do not always — qualify for “hypomania”).

[*]The patient has had loss of response to an antidepressant (sometimes called “Prozac Poop-out”):  it worked well for a while then the depression symptoms came back, usually within a few months.

[*]Three or more antidepressants have been tried, and none worked.

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Bipolarity with no hypomania at all? (!)

There is a very radical idea buried in the above 11 items, which we should look at before going on. But be aware that this idea is likely be dismissed with a “hmmmph” by many  practicing psychiatrists. The idea is this: Dr. Ghaemi and colleagues propose that there might be a version of “bipolar disorder” that does not have any mania at all, not even hypomania. They call it “bipolar spectrum disorder”.
This is strange, you are saying to yourself. “Don’t you have to have some hypomania in order to be bipolar?  How could it be ‘bi’ – polar if there is no other pole!?”
But Dr. Ghaemi and colleagues assert that there are versions of depression that end up acting more like bipolar disorder, even though there is no hypomania at all that we can detect (or, as in item #9, only when an antidepressant has been used). These conditions often do not respond well, in the long run, to antidepressant medications (which “poop out” or actually start making things worse). They respond better to the medications we routinely rely on in bipolar disorder, the “mood stabilizers” you’ll be introduced to in the Treatment section of this website (including several non-medication approaches). And these patients have other folks in their family with bipolar disorder or something that looks rather more like that (e.g. dramatic “mood swings”, even if the person never really gets ill enough to need treatment).
In Dr. Ghaemi’s description, then, there are people whose depression looks so “unipolar” that even a “fine-toothed comb” approach to looking for hypomania will not identify their depression as part of the “bipolar spectrum”. According to Ghaemi and colleagues, these people should be regarded as “bipolar”,in a sense, because of the way they will end up responding to treatment. In other words, there is something in these people which doesn’t look like our old idea of bipolar disorder, or even our newer idea of bipolar disorder (bipolar II, etc.), but will still better describe their future and the medications that are most likely to help them.
Remember that this is the very purpose of “diagnosis”, to describe the likely outcomes with and without treatment, and to identify effective treatments. So, on that basis, it seems reasonable to include these patients on the “bipolar spectrum”, like this:

The idea that someone can “have” bipolar disorder and yet not have any hypomania at all is not widely understood. You probably would get blank looks from most psychiatrists if you mention it, and frank disbelief from nearly all primary care doctors, who don’t have time to read the literature on the diagnosis of bipolar disorder. So, if you mention this idea to anyone, be prepared for some serious resistance.
Here’s some ammunition for you (nice soft paper bullets…) . As of 2005 the Harvard-associated Mood Disorder program started using this approach to diagnosis. They call it the Bipolar Index.
More:  Other researchers are also beginning to use the same framework of thought. For example, one research group just reported that patients with migraine headaches are much more likely to have these bipolar spectrum traits.Odegaard (Migraines are much more common in patients with unipolar and Bipolar II than in Bipolar I, interestingly.Fasmer) One recent summary article for primary care doctors, about bipolar disorder, discusses these “soft signs” in considerable detail.SWANN
More: The concept of a bipolar “spectrum” is supported by work from a research group calling themselves the Spectrum Project.

More?  Consider the sources.  Dr. Ghaemi was the chairman of the Committee on Diagnosis for the International Society for Bipolar Disorder. His co-author is Dr. Frederick Goodwin, who wrote the “bible” of bipolar disorder for our lifetime (Manic-Depressive Illness, with Dr. Kay Jamison). These are highly respected researchers amongst mood experts.   Dr. Ghaemi emphasizes the need to rely onevidence in all his papers on diagnosis and treatment and is very frequently cited by other authors on this topic.  You’ll see quite a few references to him on this website. But he is certainly not the only such voice, as I hoped you’ve noticed from all the references linked so far.

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Bipolar Index Table

Bipolarity Index Table

The Bipolarity Index: a 5-dimension, 100-pt. system

Dimen­sion 20 points 15 points 10 points 5 points 2 points
Episode Charac­teristics Manicsymp­toms with “prom­inenteuphoria, gran­diosity or expan­sive­ness”. Manic symp­toms with dys­phoria, irritab­ility Hypo­manic symp­toms; or mania fol­lowing an anti­depres­sant Hypo­manic symp­toms fol­lowing an anti­depres­sant; or hypo­mania below DSM thres­hold; or majorsoft signs: atypical or post­partum de­pression Psy­chosis, without other signs of mania
Age of Onset 15-19 <15 or 20-29 30-45 > 45 —
Illness Course (and Other Fea­tures) Manic epis­odes separ­ated by periods of full recovery Incom­plete recovery between manic epis­odes; or hypo­mania with full recovery between epis­odes Mania, incom­plete reco­very, but also sub­stance use; or psy­chosis only during mood epis­odes; or legal prob­lems asso­ciated with mania Re­peated epis­odes of unipolar de­pression, no hypo­mania (3 or more); or hypo­mania with incom­plete recovery between epis­odes; or any of several other fea­tures: border­line; anxiety disor­der; ADHD as a child; gambling or other risk behaviors without mania per se; or PMS Hyper­thymictemper­ament;>3 mar­riages, or two jobs in two years; or two ad­vanced degrees (seeAkiskal refer­ence on these latter features)
Re­sponse to Medic­ations Fullrecoverywithin 4 weeks of treat­ment with mood stabil­izers Full recoverywithin 12 weeks of treat­ment; orrelapse within 12 weeks of stopping mood stabil­izers; or switch to mania within 12 weeks of starting anti­depres­sant Wor­sening dys­phoria or mixed state symp­toms during anti­depres­sant; or partial re­sponse to mood stabil­izers; or anti­depres­sant inducedrapid cycling or wor­sening thereof Lack of re­sponse to 3 or more anti­depres­sants; or mania / hypo­mania when anti­depres­santstopped Imme­diate re­sponse, almost com­plete, to anti­depres­sant within 1 week or less
Family History 1st degree relative (brother / sister, parent, or child) withclear bipolardisorder 2nd degree relative with bipolar diag­nosis; or 1st degree relative with recur­ring unipolardepres­sion andfeatures sugges­tive of bipolar disorder 1st degree relative with recur­ring unipolardepres­sion or schizo­affective disorder; or any relative with clear bipolardiag­nosis; or any other relative with uni­polar depres­sion and symp­toms sugges­tive of bipolar 1st degree relative has clear problem with drugs or alcohol 1st degree relative has re­peated episodes of de­pression; or has an anxiety disorder, an eating disorder, or ADHD
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About Mental Health & Wellness Disorders

Sometimes referred to as Psychiatric or Psychological Disorders, Mental Health Disorders are caused by complex interactions between physical, Psychological, social, cultural, and hereditary influences. They involve disturbances in thinking, emotion, and/or behavior. Small disturbances in these aspects of life are common, but when such disturbances distress the person greatly, interfere with daily life, or both, they are considered Mental Illness or a Mental Health disorder. The effects of Mental Illness may be long-lasting or temporary.
Bipolar or Manic Depressive Disorder as well as other Mental Health Diagnosis cause Radical Emotional changes and Mood Swings, from Manic Highs to Depressive Lows. The majority of individuals experience alternating episodes of Mania, Depression, and etc. are from a minor state of life, to lifelong disability.

MENTAL HEALTH DIAGNOSIS:

Mental health (psychiatric or psychological) disorders involve disturbances in thinking, emotion, and/or behavior. Small disturbances in these aspects of life are common, but when such disturbances distress the person greatly and/or interfere with daily life, they are considered mental illness or a mental health disorder. The effects of mental illness may be long-lasting or temporary. These disorders are caused by complex interactions between physical, Psychological, Social, Cultural, and Hereditary Influences.

OVERVIEW OF MOOD DISORDERS:
Mood disorders are mental health disorders that involve emotional disturbances consisting of long periods of excessive sadness (depression), excessive joyousness or elation (mania), or both. Depression and mania represent the two extremes, or poles, of mood disorders.

Mood disorders are emotional disturbances consisting of prolonged periods of excessive sadness, excessive joyousness, or both. Mood disorders are categorized as depressive or bipolar. Anxiety and related disorders.
Sadness and joy (elation) are part of everyday life. Sadness is a universal response to defeat, disappointment, and other discouraging situations. Joy is a universal response to success, achievement, and other encouraging situations. Grief, a form of sadness, is considered a normal emotional response to a loss. Bereavement refers specifically to the emotional response to death of a loved one.

A mood disorder is diagnosed when sadness or elation is overly intense and persistent, is accompanied by a requisite number of other mood disorder symptoms, and significantly impairs the person’s capacity to function. In such cases, intense sadness is termed depression, and intense elation is termed mania. Depressive disorders are characterized by depression; bipolar disorders are characterized by varying combinations of depression and mania.
Lifetime risk of suicide (see Suicidal Behavior) for people with a depressive disorder is 2 to 15%, depending on severity of the disorder.

Risk is further increased in the following cases:

At the start of treatment, when psycho-motor activity is returning to normal but mood is still dark
During mixed bipolar states
At personally significant anniversaries
By severe anxiety
By alcohol and substance use

Other complications include disability ranging from mild to complete inability to function, maintain social interaction, and participate in routine activities; impaired food intake; severe anxiety; alcoholism; and other drug dependencies.

Bipolar Disorder and other serious “Brain Diseases” are an extreme challenge for the individual and the entire family. Depression is an Illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts. It affects how one eats, and sleeps, the way one feels about oneself, and the way one thinks about things!
The information here should not be used as a substitute for seeking medical care for diagnose or treatment.

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