Emotions: Anxiety

Anxiety is a cerebral emotion: when it is intense it �fogs� the mind, producing mental tiredness and the incapacity for intellectual work. I feel it most in my eyes as a regular ache, which generates a sensitivity to bright light. When I am writing or typing under a bright light I control the eye-ache by regularly splashing my eyes with cold water, perhaps every half hour or so. Both the mental tiredness and the ache are intensified when combined with any mode of self-pity.

 

In social company, anxiety (in vanity mode) stimulates a compulsive need to speak (I get embarrassed by my silence) or compulsive behaviour (such as smoking, drinking alcohol, nail-biting, over-eating). When I have this fuzzy head at home I usually relax on the settee and doze. The cessation of anxiety can be quite sudden and produces an immediate clearing of the head � I �wake up� from my semi-consciousness. The need for a long sleep time each night is usually due to the presence of anxiety or to a mode of self-pity.

 

Anxiety keeps the person focused on negative emotions ; if I am absorbed in narcissistic joy or jealous love, then if anxiety arises I usually switch out of them into self-pity modes or even hostile feelings.

 

The fear mode of anxiety is generated by a dictatorial conscience, or the �voice of authority�. This voice has two origins.
It can originate from the family setting: the parents� commands become internalised into an oppressive conscience � �do as you are told�. The voice of authority also comes from one�s soul: the soul directs oneself to practise self-control (here the �voice� is not a clear verbal one but more like an intuitive prompting). If I do something that my soul does not like, then I immediately feel a burst of anxiety in my eyes. However, this �voice� is a subtle one and is unlikely to be noticed by a person who has not developed sensitivity.

 

In general, narcissism and jealousy are the two avenues to power, the two ways to express and achieve power. Pride and guilt are the two avenues to ethics. Resentment arises when the person�s sense of idealism is restricted by guilt ; bitterness arises when idealism is restricted by pride.

 

What needs to be accepted is that emotions are not good or bad in themselves, but that the goodness or the badness lies in the context that we experience them and view them. However, since it is common practice to value things rather than contexts, I prefer to label emotions as either positive or negative, rather than as either good or bad.

 

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Anger Management: Techniques to Calm Down

Anger management is one of the many methods used in psychotherapy to address issues which could lead to uncontrollable rage and much worse scenarios. Being angry for instance is a normal or natural emotion. Anyone could experience the intense emotion of getting annoyed or peeved to something or someone. There are instances when a person could get angry from the pettiest to the most major triggering situations. You could lose your phone and get really annoyed. When your kid throws a tantrum and you get all stressed out, you have the tendency to get furious. When co-workers or bosses get too much to handle at work, you get angry.

Being angry only becomes a problem when this emotion is already interfering with and changing your life. It is not a bad thing to be angry per se but it could lead to negativity in life especially if it already becomes a habit. Hence, the best thing to do is to handle your anger and deal with it through healthy and positive means. Some people have the psychological makeup to do this, while others still need professional help. That is why there are therapists working with those who are grappling with their tendency of being furious and not being able to control it. Managing your anger helps you maintain and develop good relationships from your family to your workplace and social life.

Anger management comes in different techniques and methods. The starting point of dealing and coping with this emotion is through rating it. Therapists would ask you how you would rate your being angry, like for instance, in a scale of 1 to 10.  Why is this necessary? The first step of handling and controlling your anger is through awareness. You battle with your anger and try to tame it with two eyes wide open. You know exactly when you are angry and you have the edge to control it. Relaxation technique is another method used once you are aware and know your feelings. There are various ways of doing the relaxation technique.

Calming down and taming that monstrous feeling of being furious is effectively done through meditation and relaxation. It depends on the therapist what method he would use on your case. However, the basic relaxation and meditation approach starts with a simple breathing exercise. Quieting down one self is quite difficult but if you learn how to master the silence and calm your thoughts, this is where calmness and serenity springs out. Aside from focused and deep breathing, other exercises include visualization and guided practice. Oftentimes, clients are asked to just listen to calming music for peaceful and serene disposition.

Both clients and therapists work together during anger management sessions. Those grappling with this intense emotional dilemma are even asked to list down their coping mechanisms. It helps that they are the ones who determine the ways and means to solve their problems. How much you invest on the process of healing spells the result of the process. Anger-free life means better and happier relationships and better outlook.

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Healthy Relationship Positive Affirmations

Present Tense Affirmations
I am in love with my partner
I respect my partner deeply
I am able to be my true self around my partner
I communicate my wants and needs clearly
I always take into consideration the perspective of my partner
I am constantly striving to grow the love between my partner and myself
I am able to draw boundaries when needed
I go out of my way to support my partner
I am tuned in to the wants and needs of my partner
I am able to take space for myself when needed

 

Future Tense Affirmations
I will develop a healthy relationship with my partner
I will be a wonderful spouse
I am starting to feel more and more in love
I will act with respect and care towards my partner
I am constantly developing and growing my relationship
Each day I feel closer to my partner
I am able to communicate clearly
I will always be honest and loving towards my partner
My relationship is improving each and every day
I will express my wants and needs clearly

 

Natural Affirmations
I deserve to have a healthy relationship
I can respectfully communicate my feelings
Having a healthy relationship is extremely important to me
I do everything possible to nurture the love I have for my partner
My partner respects and cherishes me
Honest communication is one of my natural strengths
Having a healthy and loving relationship is just a normal part of my life
Drawing boundaries and fostering respect is important
Listening to my partners feelings is very important to me
Building a healthy relationship is worthy of any and all effort
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy can be used as a treatment. Article includes an introduction to CBT, exposure therapy, the Negative Triad as well as the successes and criticisms of the treatment.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a therapeutic approach in psychology that is intended to help individuals learn to cope with anxiety inducing or stressful situations by rationally addressing faulty cognition and the ways in which it leads to inappropriate and self-defeating behaviors. For those with some knowledge of the history of psychology, even the name of the therapy might cause some confusion, as the disciplines of cognitive psychology and behaviorism are often seen as being at odds with one another. In this case, however, the theorists are more firmly on the side of cognitive psychology – they definitely hold cognitive processes to have some degree of agency in causing behavior. They are not simply types of behavior in and of themselves.

The whole of cognitive behavioral therapy is quite vast, with a number of different approaches and techniques that ultimately intend to accomplish the same goals. As a therapeutic device, it has proven quite successful in helping diminish phobias, overcome anxiety disorders, and relieve the symptoms of posttraumatic stress disorder.

Exposure Therapy

One of the areas in which cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT, has made the most strides is in dealing with anxiety and phobia. The underlying principle behind CBT is that one holds false beliefs and expectations about the world that adversely color our interactions with others, causing undue stress and anxiety. The psychologist O. Mowrer was one of the first to attempt to undermine those false beliefs with a form of therapy intended to improve behavior by way of cognition.

This type of therapy, known as exposure therapy, worked as follows. Suppose that you were afraid of spiders. Even if you knew rationally that a spider wasn’t poisonous and posed no threat to you, you would still feel anxious when a spider came near you, and have feelings close to panic if one touched you. For the cognitive psychology, what is going on here? You hold false beliefs about spiders on some level, such that when you’re exposed to them, your experience is affected adversely by your irrational cognition. The anxiety and fear you feel as a result reinforces those irrational feelings, making things worse.

With exposure therapy, you would be gradually exposed to your stressor (spiders), while at the same time having your typical response (anxiety and fear) suppressed. For instance, a therapist might place a spider near you and help you maintain a sense of calm through talking and becoming slowly and gradually acclimated to the idea of having a spider near you. In time, you might even be able to touch the spider. Eventually, your fears should diminish entirely. How does this work? It’s simply that, if you’re exposed to a spider without allowing your anxiety to be triggered, the stimulus of the spider gradually becomes disassociated from the response of anxiety, and the phobia is conquered.

Aaron Beck’s Negative Triad

Another cognitive psychologist, Aaron Beck, was the first to formalize the idea of the cyclical interplay between environment, cognition, and behavior, calling it the negative triad. The negative triad works as follows.

First, one holds a “negative schema” regarding the world. Maybe this is the expectation that you will be treated poorly by others, or that others are looking to harm you in some way. Maybe it’s simply the expectation that any cats you meet will bring you bad luck. Whatever the case, these negative schema are self-destructive beliefs with the tendency to induce stress in those who hold them.

When one interacts with the world, this negative schema provides the framework in which the interaction will unfold. If one talks to a job interviewer with a feeling of positivity, one might have good results. By contrast, if one talks to a job interviewer with a negative schema in place, feeling as if the situation is hopeless, then the meeting will probably go bad.

When the meeting does go bad, it reinforces our negative schema. We feel that our expectations have been met, and are thus justified. What we need to come to realize, according to Beck, is that our negative schema actually *cause* the poor outcomes and our own self-destructive behaviors. With conscious recognition, however, these cognitive biases and negative schemas can be overcome, and one can approach the world with feelings of confidence that will ultimately produce good results.

Success with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Elsewhere, researchers have had a great deal of success applying CBT to posttraumatic stress disorders. Typically, those suffering from this disorder will feel a sense of generalized anxiety as a result of an earlier, unresolved traumatic event. Generally, this event will have led to the formation of negative schema that can, at least theoretically, be undone with CBT. Mark Reinecke at Northwestern University has conducted a number of recent studies that further verify the utility of CBT in combating posttraumatic stress disorder.

Criticisms

While CBT is one of the most popular therapeutic approaches to come out of clinical psychology in decades, it is not well loved by everyone. There are detractors, for instance, who claim that the relative simplicity and low implementation cost of CBT have led to its becoming more popular than warranted. As evidence for this, they cite the general lack of evidence that CBT can be therapeutically effective against schizophrenia and other psychotic disorders.

Evaluation

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the attempt to overcome anxiety, depression, and neuroses through the conscious recognition of self-destructive beliefs, with the assumption being that changing this cognition will ultimately change one’s behavior, and thusly one’s experience with the world.

CBT has had success in treating phobias through a technique called exposure therapy that involves gradual exposure to the object of fear, coupled with a systematic repression of the anxiety response.

Aaron Beck formalized the cyclical interplay of environment, cognition, and behavior with his “negative triad”, a cycle in which one’s negative schema affects one’s experiences, and those experiences in turn reinforce one’s negative schema.

While CBT has been shown to be effective in treating posttraumatic stress disorder, depression, anxiety, and phobias, little evidence has been cited that it is effective in dealing with schizophrenia and other psychotic disorders.

References

Mowrer, O. “Learning Theory and Behavior.” New York: John Wiley & Sons,

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Fight or Flight Response Revision Quiz LINK

https://www.psychologistworld.com/stress/fight-flight-response-revision-quiz.php

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