Author Archives: JmaC

For many people, emotions are a scary thing. Part of the problem is that we just don’t know what to do with them, according to Darlene Mininni, Ph.D, MPH, author of The Emotional Toolkit. So we turn to the only … Continue reading →

1. Identify the emotion you’re feeling. Identifying a specific emotion can be more difficult than you think. If you are struggling, start with the four basic categories: anxiety, sadness, anger, or happiness. By simply identifying exactly what you’re feeling, you … Continue reading →

For many people, emotions are a scary thing. Part of the problem is that we just don’t know what to do with them, according to Darlene Mininni, Ph.D, MPH, author of The Emotional Toolkit. So we turn to the only … Continue reading →

101 TIPS: What we think in our minds will eventually become what we believe. This is why it is so important that we start saying positive things about ourselves many times each and every day. Choose two or three of … Continue reading →

The Letting It Out Fallacy This rests on the belief that people who hurt you or cause you pain should be punished. It often feels good to express anger when you are frustrated and hurting. It helps to discharge the … Continue reading →

Conditional assumptions are based on a syllogism like this:“If you loved me, you’d pick me up at the subway station after work (or do the dishes, or show more sexual interest, or get home earlier, or help me when I’m … Continue reading →

This one is based on the assumption that you really can have control over the behavior of others. While sometimes people do change if you ask them, the fallacy of change reflects the belief that you can make people different … Continue reading →

This belief hinges on the application of legal and contractual rules to the vagaries of interpersonal relationships. The idea is that there is some absolute standard of correct and fair behavior which people should know and live up to. The … Continue reading →

you pay attention to your inner monologue with which you analyze and interpret your experience, you will notice that many times each day you are judging the behavior of others. These judgements are based on a set of rules about … Continue reading →